[Rachel104]

I love a guy for past 3 years. I was at school when I proposed to him. He had rejected as I was too young. But with time he is also attachd to me. He loves me. But never says as it he is introvert. He is well establishd but is from not a sound background. I can convince my parents. But perhaps he's shying away. He's 9yrs older than me, perhaps that's an issue for him. His parnets are looking for a gal for him, and my parents are looking for a guy. I need to marry him. Haven't proposd him 2nd time though I told him I love him a lot. How to convince him now?

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[talaniman]

Propose and see what he says but I have to say a guy that you have to convince to marry you isn't a great catch in my opinion, nor do you NEED to marry him, you just want to. Seems he should be convincing you. Just saying.

[Dellamortia]

I married someone 8 years older than me and it didn't work at all. The age gap really does make a huge difference, especially when you are younger. You sound like you are pretty young. I suggest you have fun and wait until you are at least 25 before you take the plunge. Any guy worth having will wait for you, and you can be happy together without a ring on your finger. Marriage doesn't promise a forever commitment, even though we like to believe it does. Your fear of not marrying this guy translates (in my opinion) to a fear that you can't hold onto him any other way. I guarantee, if you marry someone that you can't hang onto for a few years without being married, you won't be able to hang onto them when you are married either.

[ajwain]

I doubt whether he loves you.. otherwise he would have mentioned it to you.. I mean its high time as his parents are looking for his marriage.. actually he would have proposed you if he was serious about you even if he is shy.. may be you have this girly crush on him and thinking of it as love.. love is far different! He too must be having just a soft corner for you.. so just relax and wait to meet your right person!