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sweetpie88 · Mar 21, 2011, 06:42 PM

I was talking to this guy and he believe that just because I'm shy and grew up sheltered that it might backfire. Growing my dad was strict, I wasn't allowed to go out with friends or anything like that. I told the guy that I never had a boyfriend and he questioned my virginity, I told him that I'm still a virgin. He thinks that since I'm 22 that I have a lot to learn in so little time about the opposite sex and that once I come out of my shell it may be destructive. He thinks it's possible that I might become a sex addict and alcoholic just because I don't drink and have sex. He also said other stuff but I have to keep it short.

Wondergirl · Mar 21, 2011, 07:04 PM

Wow! I (and a lot of others) should be in jail or something, if that's all true!

He sounds like an armchair psychologist who might have designs on "helping" you. Take him with a grain of salt, and don't spend a lot of time listening to him.

talaniman · Mar 23, 2011, 08:07 AM

The guy has no clue what he is talking about so, why even listen to his very uninformed view of things.

I vote he is ignorant, and full of himself.

amicon · Mar 23, 2011, 09:01 AM

He's ignorant and arrogant-I wouldn't bother.

southamerica · Mar 23, 2011, 09:06 AM

Everyone here is right and I need to spread the rep.

You're not a robot, you weren't designed to do X in Y circumstance.

I was raised in a family with married parents and I was sheltered, yet I still partied my heart away (not literally, heart is still strong)
My boyfriend was raised in a broken home with an alcoholic father and he didn't have a single sip of alcohol until 21 and a half (half a year after the legal age here), never did any drugs, and still lives a calm and relaxed lifestyle.
Neither of us are sexual deviants.

Our environment, upbringing, and innocence does not decide who we are. We are humans and we make choices for ourselves. Like wondergirl said, take this guy with a grain of salt.

sweetpie88 · Mar 23, 2011, 10:02 AM

Thanks, he kind of made me feel that there was something wrong with me. I thought he was a nice guy and I thought I was comfortable with him.. I guess not the guy I thought he was, I no longer talk to him.

southamerica · Mar 23, 2011, 10:10 AM

GOOD for you! See? You're capable of making great choices which you displayed by cutting him off. You'll be just fine.

I wish · Mar 23, 2011, 06:32 PM

Regardless of what he says is true or not, you shouldn't have to put up with someone that is going to put you down like that.

It doesn't seem like it's going to be easy to get through to him. If he can't find a way to be more understanding, this relationship is going to end whether you want to or not.

If you want to save this relationship, you're going to need to be really patient with each other so that you can explain and understand each others perspective without resenting each other.

amicon · Mar 24, 2011, 12:13 AM

You made the right decision!

sweetpie88 · Mar 24, 2011, 08:52 AM

I don't talk to him no more