[BillyBumbler]

Me and my girlfriend have been going out for almost two years now, and I love her to death, but lately it just seems like she's less and less interested in spending time with me, both intimately and otherwise. She apologizes every time she breaks a date, and sounds at least sincere about it, but it's clearly her own time management skills that are the problem in the first place; she puts everything off until the last minute and then it's a mad rush to get it all done in the end. It leaves us with an increasingly small amount of time together, and I'm beginning to resent her for it. What am I supposed to do? She knows that I'm upset when she cancels plans, but she doesn't seem to want to take any action to fix it. We've invested a lot of time and love into this relationship, and I'd hate to see it end, but I don't want to feel like I'm the only one who's still got a foot in the camp...

[amicon]

Time to have a serious conversation with her about your relationship-it sounds as if she is losing interest.

[talaniman]

Have you talked about it? What does she say about it? Two years is a long time to be with someone and not be able to work out your differences, and it's a challenge to resolve them where you both can agree on a solution. Its also a time when you learn that her cute ways that attracted you are now a source of frustration and annoyance.

How you deal with this will determine if you can work together, and build and move forward, or NOT. But you have to communicate honestly, and calmly. Then decide accordingly.

Sometimes between partners, it doesn't matter who is at fault, for whatever goes wrong, the only thing that does matter is how you adjust and handle the situation. If she has flaws, as do we all, then you accept them, and adjust. Your choice.

[adro_is_hurting]

I would talk to her about it. Have a serious talk with her, and don't hold anything back. I know this is scary because it could change the course of the relationship forever, may even start the end to it, but you have to do it. I was in your position not that long ago with a girl I was with for over three years. We didn't have a serious talk about it, and it only got worse. We spent less and less time together and she blamed our conflicting schedules for it. By the time I mustered up enough courage to have a serious talk about it with her, it was too late. We ended up breaking up. She wanted to do other things, she didn't want to be in a relationship anymore. If this is the case with your girlfriend, then you need to know asap and not stick around in misery for a prolonged time like I did. If she's truthful with you, then you can make decision on what to do and how to do it. No matter what it is.