[thasni]

Hey am only 15 years old... last 14 years I don't know how I enjoyed my life... but now am just became... I don't know what happens to me... am always sad and not enjoying a single moment happy when am alone...
But when am with my friends ,I am the hero among them just bcoz am so happy with them...

I have 3 best friends.. they 3 have so many problems... they didn't discuss with themselves but with me alone & am sugesting them the required solutions... but I doesn't want to share my sadness with them... my family is a middle size... am not keeping a good relation with them... am always get angry with my mom.sometimes I feel am not comfort there...

I can't even explain my problems......am just sad always sad..............*** send me some solution 4 it.....

[mamoon15]

Hey Thasni, Its human pshycology that Whenever a person gets attention and acknowledgement of friends its his golden period.You are really hero,you have to believe this.loneliness is the worst enemy of man,so better be away from it by getting to your hobbies and other constructive works.Mom is always your well wisher,u respect and love her heartily,things will change very soon believe me..

[simplicity16]

First of all, the reason that you do not enjoy life is because you just don't want to enjoy it. You need to open up yourself and tell yourself that life is fun, that there are many things out there that is interesting. Everyone is lonely at some point in time, and it does not necessarily mean a bad thing. Sometimes, what you need is just a time to reflect on yourself and what you have done.
Maybe the reason for your sadness in that you do not know what you want in life. Everything that you did seemed to have no purpose, that is why you do not enjoy or feel accomplished. Ask yourself this question, " What is my goal in life?"

[Mama3]

Hello Sweetheart,
When we are in the middle of depression, part of it's power is that we can not even imagine ever feeling happy or hopeful again. The fact that you are able to escape you sadness by spending time with peers means you are not clinically depressed, and this has much more to do with your age and the unimaginable combination of hormonal, physical, chemical, and emotional changes all happening at once in your body, brain (it is physically changing chemically and in size/shape in ways doctors are still studying. This ends at about age 25. It slows down significantly by 17, so just think of this season of your life as "getting through it." Have you ever heard anyone say, "Oh, I wish I could be 15 again!" We were all miserable, and we were all trying our best to hide it. I have a 17 and a half year old son. He is 6'1, athletic, handsome, girls and guys like him, he's an A student, comes from as happy a family as reality allows. He knows how intensely loved he is by both me and my husband, his dad. Nonetheless, when he was 15, black cloud depression hit hard. I eventually became truly concerned... could this boy who is the apple of my eye become so depressed that I could lose him? We were so close that he told me about all his feelings. He did, however, develop a severe hatred and intolerance for his dad, two younger sisters, and even the family dogs, all of whom he had previously enjoyed gentle, loving, affectionate, happy, and laughter-filled relationships. He did, however, have a complete relief from this heaviness, hopelessness, and sadness when he was with his friends. He was his old happy self with his friends! We decided he needed to spend as much time as possible with his friends, playing frisbee, going to movies and hanging out, shooting hoops... He needed release. By the time he was 17, our old guy was back; laughing with his sisters, joking with his dad.Perhaps the testosterone surge had evened itself out. The surge that comes around 14-16 is huge. It lowers the voice, brings on physical changes (body hair, lower voice, Aggression!) There is an equivalent list of mind/body/brain changes going on in girls at this time. I don't know if you are a boy or a girl. There is a GREAT book by Michael Gurian called THE WONDER OF GIRLS which compassionately explains these changes in a way that a non-science-y person can understand. I wish I'd had it when I was a girl so that I may have understood that I wasn't crazy or mean or a hypocrite. I now have a 14 and 10 year old daughter. I would never want to relive those days! It gets so much better! Don't listen to people who only heap false guilt on your already exhausted brain and heart (like Simplicity16; does not seem to deal with emotions very well.) If you can, find a trustworthy adult who accepts you where you are and will just listen. This kind of adult will know that this is a tough phase, and will believe in you, and have vision for your future even when you don't. Find a friend or group of peers to just do fun things; not have H.D.R.s. (Heavy, Deep, and Real conversations.) Be a friend to your old friends, but find some light friends for silly activities. Just to reassure you, a few years ago, I was truly depressed. My husband flew me across the country to spend a week with my two best friends: College roommates with whom I'd kept closely in touch, and with whom I always laughed and felt entirely accepted, "known," and understood. We did all my favorite things, and I cried through it all. I stayed sad. I was truly depressed. If your mood lifts when your situation changes, you are in GOOD SHAPE!! THIS TOO SHALL PASS, and you will be able to encourage, not judge, others who are going through hard times. Take it an hour at a time, and soon enough, you'll see light at the end of the tunnel! A Mom Who Cares