[candacef]

My Best Frined and I- crazy mixed messages.. Please help
For the last 6 months I have been hanging with a friend and we have become best friends. After a few months we began randomly hooking up too. All of our friends and strangers comment how we are in love. I know it too, I just know it in my heart. Every time we take 2 steps forward though in a couple way he takes 5 steps back. It was really bugging me, but his girlfriend of 5 years and him broke up 2 years ago. It really devastated him and he has not had a girlfriend since and she was his only girlfriend and he is super sexy and sweet.

We just went away for a long weekend together. After the second day, he was super drunk and started crying and saying that he loved me- genuinely, that he was scared to death, but thought of me all the time and knew he was pulling back, but he was not there yet, he thought if we got together right now he would disappoint me, that he knew he would get there and he wanted me to be patient with him.. then he drops some bombshell that I am the most amazing person he knows, but he is not crazy attracted to me like he is with other girls- in a super lustful way. And after that madness, we wind up spending another two days together as if nothing happened like a real couple- handholding, sex etc. In fact, we woke up our last day and he said he didn't want to leave yet so we spent an extra day.

The mixed messages are all over the place for me, part of me thinks he genuinely loves me but is separating hooking up with super hot chicks with real love. Part of me thinks I should pull back and let him lead the entire thing and see what it is like to not have me trying to move anything forward. Part of me says RUN because these are some super crazy mixed messages and if he is not attracted to me he never will be.

[talaniman]

I think you back up to a safe emotional distance and stop acting as though nothing has happened.

This is where couples communicate honestly, and resolve their issues. Not ignore them. You need facts, clarity, and reassurances, and should talk about his level of commitment.

Then decide what you should do about it, and tell him what you think. COMMUNICATE!!

[nitelight198073]

Well my dear this man is confused, what has happened since the long weekend? Maybe you need to give him some time.