[k9handler]

I've been with my x for 6 years on and off we have had amazing times, and bad. She's the mother of my son, and I love her. I came back from overseas and I was hoping me being home for good would change things and bring her back but now she's moving in with one of her girl friends. She gives me hope a lot and makes statements that she would like us to be a family, us to get a house, and has ideas of what we should get, but she says she needs space, and has to figure herself out, I know she has a problem with depression and I'm sure this has something to do with it along with our bad parts of our past. One min she doubts it could work the next she gives feedback on houses that she would like to live with me at, and says other things that hint one day she will be back, I know since I've been gone and now that I'm home she's over whelmed and feels smotherd, so how do I handle her moving out and not spending a lot of time with me, do I let her go and try in a month or so to spend time with her or take the time as it comes, I truly love her and want to be with her, what's the best thing to do?

[talaniman]

You didn't say how long you were gone, nor why, but obviously she has a different take on this situation, and you have to adjust.

I think you focus on the welfare of your child, and let her be. You will have to work together, seeing as you have that child between you, so while you rebuild a life without her, be nice, and be a great dad for now. See what happens after that. Above all don't let her confusion be yours.

Where did she live before you left? Being blunt, forget getting a house with someone who can't hang in for the long haul in good times, and bad, but not living together doesn't mean you can't be great parents. Build on that.