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    Feb 17, 2011, 08:00 AM
    I am still in love with my ex from 3 years ago.
    I dated this girl throughout high school and had a great time. We got to college and broke it off so we could experience life on our own. It has been 3 years, we have always maintained contact, and have occasionally hooked up or semi-dated in the past 3 years. I currently have a girlfriend now, but I still find myself thinking about my ex and calling her occasionally (and vice versa). We live in different cities at the moment but we still manage to see each other every couple months or so. Am I just holding on to something that is lost, or could it actually be worth trying to pursue another relationship with this girl.

    BTW, when we did date in the past 3 years, it was long distance and she broke it off each time.
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    Feb 17, 2011, 01:34 PM

    Where does this leave your PRESENT girlfriend? Does she know you have feelings for your ex?

    It seems that the old girlfriend isn't that into you if the two of you start up again and she breaks it off each time. Sometimes memories of a relationship are better than the relationship itself. Somehow time erases why relationships end.

    I'd think this over very carefully.
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    Feb 20, 2011, 08:29 PM

    So how many times will you keep chasing that dream and get dumped? Is that fair to this current girl?

    Let the past go and move forward. Even if it means keeping the ex out of your life, by breaking all contact with her.
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    Feb 21, 2011, 08:44 AM

    It's going to be very difficult to let go of your ex if you keep staying in touch.

    I suggest you make up your mind on what you want, quit leading your current girlfriend on.
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    Feb 21, 2011, 10:05 AM
    Three people in one relationship never works out.

    You have continued a relationship with your ex, while at the same time continue a relationship with your current girlfriend.

    One of them has to go.
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    Feb 21, 2011, 08:30 PM

    I know What your Talking about , My situation is closer to home Niether of the Guys live far away but I have feelings for them Both , If you like your Ex and she likes you go for it , But oyu have to think of all the consequences , What happens to your Girlfriend at this time ? What if she Breaks it off again ? This is what you have to think of. I know if My boyfriend broke up with me for someone else I would be heart broken , So maybe you should see were your Relashionship right now Goes to and If it doesn't work You didn't just leave her For another girl. Hopefully some of this has helped if Not Sorry.

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