[john2011]

I'm going to try to explsin this as short as possible. Sorry this might be long but there has been a lot in the past 4 months I knew her. I met my girlfriend about 4 months ago and when we met we hit it off great. We met in a class we both were taking.It was a three day class, Anyway on the second day she sat behind me and we started to talk. On the third day we exhanged information thinking yea she won't contact me after this class. I was wrong. The next day she sent me a e-mail saying was nice to meet me etc. I sent her a e-mail back saying samethings. Few days past and I called her. We talked for about 2 hours and I found out that she had a boyfriend and that he was living with her and that she has no interest in him and he wants him out. I also found out that they have been dating for around 6 years as well. He has only lived there little over a year. (She told me the guy was a-hole) So I was cool with that since we just started talking and we were not dating. As time went on we statred talking more and she would hint that she was interested in me, so one day I asked her out to lunch she agree we went and had a good time. Time passes and we are still taking. I go back home for a holiday and we still were talking while I was back home. I night she called me and we talked for about 7 hours and we leared a lot about each other, and she said that she can't wit for me to get back. She also asked me to come over for christmas. ( That is a later)

Now the interesting part. I got back and the next day she calles me said that I'm in your area can I stop by. I told her she can that was fine. She stops by and we stared to talk. One thing lead to another and we had sex that day. I knew all along about the boyfriend so I was like" ok keep it simple" if she comes just for sex. Few days later she tells me that she has feelings for me and that she does like me. I was like I feel the same, but Doesn't your boy friend live with you. She said Im going to kick him out. She said I have asked him to leave numerous times over the past few months and he won't go. Now I'm going to be more forcefull about it. She calles me one day and said that she has kicked him out and that she was happy he was gone. This was a few days before Christmas. I was like cool. I was thinking to myself I'm going to see where this is going, but the whole time I knew that she was not ready to get involed after a long rough relation she had with her ex, So I had my guard up.

Christmas comes and I go with her to her parents home. We were both little nervous since her parents knew about me and I never met them. It was weird cause wasn't just her parent was all the family, aunts,uncles, cousins. I got along great with everyone, and they liked me she told me later. On that day I admit I let my guard down thinking she really does like me why else would she meet her family. New years comes and we go on vacation for the night and things were good. The sad thing is even though the BF was moved out she still had contact with him. I though was crazy we talked about it. She said was nothing(boy I was stupid). Few days later I sent her a text and hse never replied which was weird. The next day I was on my way to work and there was a car in her driveway. I was like I don't believe this. I didn't call her or text her. She actaully called me and I said nothing to her about it, but I knew that she did know that I knew. I could tell. I go to her work after on of my appointments. We talked and I could tell she was nervous. I did break down and told her that I knew about what happened. She was like I know you did. We left her office and we went to her place to talk. She said was a mistake and that it was truly over. SHe siad ever since Christmas she was putting pressure on her self to have a relationship with me and was hard since being in a LTR. I agreed and I said that I need to let you go since you are going through a lot. We didn't talk for a week then one day I was at a store doing some shopping and I turned around she was righ behind me with her parents. I was like this is weired that she lived aways from the store I was at. We talked and then her parents asked me to lunch. I went and we spent the rest of the day together.

OK that was our story here is the Question at hand
We have been seeing each other and talking since we met at the store. It has been 2 weeks. The other day I could tell somethiong was wrong, but she said nothing was wrong. I received a text from her the other day saying that she has been feeling sad and depressed that she wants to be alone for awhile and that she is not ready for a relationship. Boy was this a punch in the gut. I was in shock because things seemed good. Few days pass and we pass on the road.(we travel for our jobs) we statred texting and then she asked if I would like to do something Saturday. I said sure. So we did. Things were good. The next day I went over there late hung out and stayed over. It was weird the next morning she was quite and didn't say much. I left and sent her text later on, and she replied I just haven't been myself latly I told you. I asked if I could come over that night and talk to her about things. We agreed. I got over there said I get it. You need time to heal and that I must let you go for a bit. I asked about her ex and she said that she hasent talked to him since beginning of January. I believe her cause I know some **** went down the week we weren't talking. She tells me that she doesn't want to loose contact with me that she does love me but she doesn't want a realtion. Im so confussed right now since when were together we always have good times and she tells me she enjoys my companionship. Im just not sure what to do. I do lover her a lot and I know she needs space.

Sorry for the novel but I though was important that the whole story be told for better understanding of my situation.

[tom1777]

Get out she wasting time with you till someone better comes along.

[robinad]

She is stringing you a long. It's sad, but it's the truth. There are tons of girls out there who would love a good relationship. Move on to one of them. She is a user.

[liongal]

Totally agree, this girl will mess with your head and then tell you she made a huge mistake and is going to marry her 'ex' b/f.

Safeguard your heart I tell you... run for your life... flee :o)

Seriously, you know all this already, she wanted you, she got you, know she wants her old b/f back...

[answerme_tender]

Well I think its time to move on. Consider this a lesson well learned, never and I do mean never mess with anyone who already has a boyfriend. If they will cheat on them what makes you think they won't cheat right back on you! Just walk away from this user, she is not only keeping you hooked, but her ex and goes back -n-forth. She gets off on the drama of having you both doing whatever for her atttention!!

Go total NO CONTACT---dont allow her to call,text,computer, or come to your work--nothing!! If you happen to run into her at school act like she means NOTHING, just nod your head and keep walking, if she tries to stop you and talk just advise her you are NOT EVEN interested and have moved on.

Keep yourself busy--work out until you get tired enough to sleep, go out with friends, your young and in school learn how to just date!!

Take care