[pollo903]

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So I met this girl about a year ago. I started talking to her and then tried going out with her, it didn't happen. She was too sprung over another dude. So you know I went through the process of forgetting about her. It was hard but I accomplished it, well so I thought. So we went back to school and I still talked to her and everything, but tried to kind of avoid her because I didn't want to run the risk of the feelings I had for her to come back.

So then I met a guy in one of my classes and we started hanging out and stuff and soon we became like brothers. So you know in a bro-to-bro conversation we had he end up mentioning how he really liked the girl I used to like. He told me how he saw something in her that he didn't see in any other girl. He also say he was going to try to go out with her after her 15th birthday. At the time I was like "well cool bro, hope it works out between you two." So a few days passed after that conversation and out of nowhere me an my "ex-crush" start talking again. We become close friends and one day she comes up to me and asks for a favor. She asks me to act like we go out to see what a guy (which I hate with a passion) will say about it. So I'm like yeah sure I'll go along with it just to see the priceless look on his face. So the first day of our "supposedly relationship" goes great. Everybody believes it. Only me, her, one of her closest friends, and one of my closest friends (not the guy I talked about earlier), know its all a fluke and nothing is going on between us. Then the second day comes and she asks me to hold her hand and hug her. So I do just that, and that's when all the feelings came back. I went home that day, laid down in bed and started thinking, "wow i felt so good holding her and having her around my arms, i wonder if it would have been like this if we had actually gone out about a year ago?" Okay, so at this point my close friend that likes her has no idea about our fake relationship, and well I have no doubt again that I like her. So I don't know what to do. Should I be the good friend he's been to me and let it go and let him have a shot to be happy with her or should I follow my heart and try to go out with her once more?

[adviceishere]

Well even though you liked her first in the past, your feelings left you and your friend developed feelings for her and told you about them, you never told him a year before that you like her so in a way he got there first, what if he finds out about this "fake relationship" and thinks your after going behind his back? After all he only just told you he likes her and now your "seeing" her. That's what he will think anyway is my guess, if your like brothers you should be able to fess up and be honest with your friend, this girls pretends to be with boys to make other boys jealous, she sounds pretty imature to me and not worth either of your time, she may play you both off againstr each other. Be honest with your pal tell him everything you wrote on this and make a pact not to let a girl come between you and try forget her, but she is not worth losing your friend over, your both far too young to be even thinking of having someone come between you. Good luck ;)

[genericreader]

This girl sounds like more trouble than she's worth. She wants to play you against another guy? How cruel is that? And you decide to go along with it? Then she's hugging you and holding your hand and still pretending it's a fake relationship?

Avoid this girl at all costs. Tell your friend you have feelings for her, caution him that she likes to play with boys' feelings and warn him she may not be for him, but don't let her come between you. If he decides to pursue her anyway, that's his decision. But you know that this is not for you.

You made that decision once in the past, you can make it again. Or you can do it the hard way and end up minus fake relationship and minus real friend.

[quiteconfused]

If you ask me from a girls perspective (sorry about spelling) she wouldn't have asked you to do what she didn't if she didn't like you, I would go for it the worst that can happen is she can tell you no.