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    Feb 5, 2011, 09:52 AM
    I just need someone that will love me for real!
    I never asked for too much. I just wanted someone! Someone to hold me tight and love me like I'm the only one, someone that I can call mine! How did I end up here? Where the hell are u? How long are you going to make me wait? I needed love but no one gave it to me... why? All I ever wanted was just one person, not many, just one that truly cares, loves me for what I am!! But that's not happening! :'(
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    Feb 5, 2011, 10:33 AM
    You know what I am reading here?. Me,Me, Me, Me... Love ME!?
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    Feb 5, 2011, 10:35 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by ironhide262 View Post
    You know what I am reading here?..... Me,Me, Me, Me....Love ME!!!?!?!
    This person is obviously hurting.

    This person must have been "done wrong" before.

    Let's try to understand where this person is coming from.

    OP, what's on your mind? What happened?
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    Feb 5, 2011, 07:52 PM

    Sounds like we have a break up alert.
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    Feb 5, 2011, 08:02 PM

    You have to love yourself before you will attain the kind of love you desire. Be everything that you can be... love will follow.

    Hugs, Didi
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    Feb 6, 2011, 05:36 AM
    I dun understand what happened. One day, I was this girl that everyone knows and I made friends everywhere I go. And I am the best friend of everyone I know and... that seems to be my problem. I know everyone so well and I am nice to everyone. And my every single crush ends up being a biffle, very close but not in the way that I expect to. I dun get it. Am I just not attractive enough for JUST one person to like me that way or am I too nice to everyone for my own good. There is absolutely just no one that I hate or that hates me, even those who dun get along with anyone call me their best friend.It's not like I have a problem with having a lot of friends but...
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    Feb 6, 2011, 06:32 AM

    How about calming down a bit, and telling us your story, so we can understand your question, instead of bits, and pieces.
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    Feb 6, 2011, 09:32 AM

    Is it so bad to have "many" who care for you?

    Why only one? Why not one hundred? Or do you mean one man for you?

    We do need more to your story to help understand.

    How old are you?
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    Feb 6, 2011, 09:59 AM
    I'll be 19 this year.
    >do you mean one man for you?< yes, that's what I mean. Every time I have a crush on someone, they just ended up being my best buddies. I feel like I'm stuck in that stage.
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    Feb 6, 2011, 11:06 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by icyquiz View Post
    I'll be 19 this year.
    >do you mean one man for you?< yes, that's what i mean. everytime i have a crush on someone, they just ended up being my best buddies. I feel like i'm stuck in that stage.
    Well you still are young. Very young.

    You have so much ahead of you, you have no idea.

    Honestly, I really believe the right man will find you when you least expect it.

    For now though, try not to stress out about this. I know it may seem as if you will NEVER find the right guy. The one guy. You will.

    I'm 33 and I STILL haven't found the right guy. I've kissed many toads, but have not yet found my prince. Lol;)

    For now, try to focus on other things, such as college, friends, and family. Try to learn as much as you can about everything. Better yourself.

    The rest will all fall into place.

    Also... who knows. These guys that you are hanging out with MIGHT want to be your boyfriend and you just don't know it.

    Just sayin'
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    Feb 6, 2011, 11:22 AM
    Yeah, I guess I just have to wait patiently. I think I'm getting better now. Thanks to your advice. It's just that life can be so lonely at times even though you have all those people all around.. :(
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    Feb 6, 2011, 12:16 PM

    Love, TRUE love, comes from friendship. After the newness of the relationship wears off... after the children are grown and gone away... after retirement and many of your friends are gone... FRIENDSHIP is the glue. You should be thrilled that you are building wonderful, close friendships with people. One day, when the right man is ready, and you are mature enough to really appreciate a true and honest love... it WILL find you.

    I married a guy very young because I believed we were in love. It ended after 5 1/2 years because he was abusive and wouldn't hold a job. I married my best friend when I was 38. We were married 10 years when he died of cancer. Without hesitation I can say that we both felt that love from the day we married until the day he died. There was never any question! Now am I fortunate enough to be married to another best friend. :) We met in 2005, married in 2007 and will be married until one of us dies. You truly must like each other for it to work.

    At 18, you still have a lot of learning relationships to go through. Each one will help you discover exactly what it is that you want and need in a relationship. Some of these will be friendships, some of these you will believe is love. They are merely to guide you to your future permanent relationship. Enjoy them, have fun, stop searching for love and let it find you. You are more attractive when you aren't seriously looking anyhow! Otherwise you are far too intense and that scares the "prospects" away! :)

    Love does not define you as a person. When you define yourself, when you are happy with just being you... love will worm it's way into your heart. I promise.

    Hugs, Didi

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