[kystien]

Good Day, well here are the details as well as past info. So my and this woman were together for 7 years, had 2 kids, gave up the first because we were young when we had him, and then 3 years later had our second that we kept. We are still close with the adoptive parents, her closer than I. from day one after our little girl was born we had some tough times and requested these people to take care of our little girl while we sorted ourselves out. What was to be 2 weeks, turned into 2 months. What was to be 3 days turned into 3 months. And so on and so forth for 3 years. About 6 months ago we split up, and she moved to another city. Now here is the kicker, we are "lovers" in her sense and as such I still support her financially, paying for her rent, food, everything. Well when she moved to the same city as the adoptive parents, she requested they look after our little girl while things got sorted out for her, and so she could get a job and get on her feet. That was 6 months ago. Since that time, she has taken her GED test, and had 3 jobs, each lasting less than a week. About a month ago, she asked me to let the adoptive parents of my son, adopt my 3 year old daughter. So to break it down for you:

1) we have issues as a couple and with things financially and request these people to help look after her while we sort things out.

2) we separate so she can get some perspective on life and so she can become somewhat independent but also so she can get her GED and get a job.

3) for 6 months, since the separation, I am still supporting her, financially and emotionally.

4) She wants to give our daughter up for adoption because she thinks it's the best thing for her.

Ok so now that its all broken down, here are some other helpful facts, She believes she is not a mother and never will be. She wants to have fun in life, including sleeping around. Most recently she slept with her room mate whom she shares the place she rents.. the place I pay for.

All I wanted was to have a family. But now all I want is for her to be a mother and an adult.

Are there any legal means in which to force her to be a mother to my child?

[adthern]

In a word, no.

Unfortunately, almost anyone can make a child, it takes special people to be parents.

Legally, if she refuses to take responsibility to parent the child, no one can make her. However, you do not have to consent to give the child up for adoption (or even temporary guardianship), you can take custody of the child as the father, she could be forced to pay support (if she can keep a job). Fathers can be primary caretakers to children just as much as mothers can.