[priyatn]

Am loving a boy truly he is also true to me . My love matter come to the knowledge of my parents asusual my parents are behaving like villans in the movies.boy side family is OK they accepted our love but my parents are threatening that they will commit suicide if I marry my lover and also asking me to forget him and marry somebody whom they choose... Ple help me I want my parents live and at the same time I don't want to lose my love and my lover

[Cat1864]

I know this will seem like a lot of questions, but going over details in your own mind might help you see your parents' perspective and ways to perhaps change it.

How long have they known about your boyfriend? Have you given them time to calm down and think rationally instead of reacting emotionally?

Why do your parents refuse to consider him as a possible husband for you? Are these objections that could be overcome given time or knowing more about him?

If 'he came to the knowledge' of your parents', does that mean you were hiding the relationship from them? Could that be part of the reason they are refusing him?

Is there someone your parents respect who would be willing to talk to them on our behalf?

I will caution you to be very sure of what you want. Be positive that he wants the same things as you do and that he has the same expectations for the future. I have read several questions from people who entered into 'love marriages' who are now having problems because traditions and reality clashed with the dreams and fantasies of how they thought love and marriage should be.

Don't stop listening to your parents because you don't want to hear what they are saying. What they say, what your boyfriend says, what his family says and what your heart says are all small parts of the whole. Pay attention to all so that you can make the best choice for you.

[priyatn]

Thanks for your reply! I only said about my love and about him.. but they are giving me a single minute to explain about my love and about him... am now house arrested

[priyatn]

Thanks for your reply! I only said about my love and about him.. but they are not giving me a single minute to explain about my love and about him... am now house arrested

[shikhaaggarwal]

Marry your boyfriend... they will do nothing...