[meowlacy]

On new years eve, my husband had a one night stand in my house on a bed we bought together(spare bed roon. The slut was his sister's best friend. Her and I had been getting along very well and then she asked me "can I kiss your husband). Feeling very confident my husband wouldn't respond because I have never thought he would cheat on me ever. I said yes. He did push her away at first. I need to explain that our relationship was already rocky before this. I was sexually and emotionally unavailable to his because he always treats me bad and then 2 hrs later wants to have sex. Yeah right. I mean nasty to me every day. She kept asking and I kept saying yeas. I did eventually say no. Then it got weird, I woulod walk in to a room and they would leave it together. I caught them doing something on the balcony and in the kitchen. Still at this point I knew forsure that he would go any farther. Then I am sitting there and they are cuddling on the couch and she's pretending she's sleeping and my husband asked if he could sleep with her? Stunned a pissed of I was like sure go ahead (very sarcastic and in a I dare you way). He then tells me that I need to go some where else so he doesn't have to walk past me with her down stairs where he is going to do the discusting deed. I got up and left the room for 2 seconds and he they were gone. I was stunned I didn't know what to do. Now his family is implying that it's my fault. I believe that my husband could be standing next to a naked super model, and I say it's OK to sleep with her and he shouldn't regardless of our problems in our marriage. (this pig was no super model fat and ungly). It was also very premeditated on her part.

[ebaines]

Was this your fault? No, it was his and hers. But you certainly didn't help things, even if you thought your answers were sarcastic. You seem to have done everything to try and enable it. They were "doing something on the balcony" and later "cuddling on the couch" in your presence and you didn't object? He asked you to step out and you did? I can only imagine that if drinking was involved things could easily get out of hand. But since they are adults - ultimately they are responsible for their behavior, not you.

[meowlacy]

When they were cuddling on the couch etc, I was still confident he wouldn't do anything. Was not threatened by her. Not my husband. I didn't step out when he asked me to, I got up to use the bathromm and came back and they were gone

[answerme_tender]

Okay, first of all ---Have you lost your mind. You don't let any woman kiss your husband, I don't give a rats how nice they asked. I don't care if they are friend or foe.
If a woman ask to kiss your husband you show her the door --period. Anyone who would ask that has absolutely NO RESPECT for you nor your marriage!!

Then you continue to allow stuff to happen because you trust your husband who treats you like crap!! You basically just got played by both of them. I cannot believe you didn't tell this woman off and to stay the heck away from your family!!

Why didn't you stop your husband from doing this? Why didn't your throw a fit and start calling her the dirty name out loud to her face that you posted about her?

Are you sure you even want to be married to this man. You obviously didn't fight to stop him from sleeping with her right in your home, in your spare bedroom, with your full knowledge and understanding of what was accuring.

Maybe you need to take a step back and really ask yourself if you want this man who would cheat like this and who has history of not treating you like a wife. Perhaps you already wanted out but needed something like this to happen to force your hand some.

Its time to move on with your life, Get out and get your life back in control for yourself. Good luck

[QLP]

What are you actually getting out of being married to this man?
Frankly I'm too stunned to say anything else.

[Cat1864]

You and your husband need counseling or divorce lawyers. If there are any children involved in this, then you need family counseling with the divorce lawyers.

Each of you has a part of the blame in this debacle. Your husband should have kept his pants on and the friend should have been kicked out when she asked to kiss your husband. You could have kept your cool and turned her out before anything happened.

There is a very big question, though, how did his family learn what happened? Is there anything that you left out or might not remember clearly?

[blindedbyluv]

You opened the door and your husband walked through it. Although you didn't think anything would happen, you made him believe you were OK with anything. The chick should have been out of your lives after she asked.

[talaniman]

And you are still married why??