[monkey19]

Today my boyfreind told me on a tex that something feels weid and different and we don't seem close but then he said other times he feels closer than evver too me and I'm 19 he's 20 I need help what does this mean :(

[DoulaLC]

He may just be experiencing the normal ebbs and flows in a relationship. Sometimes you feel the connection very strongly, other times it's there, but perhaps not as intensely.

How long have you been dating? It is not uncommon for some of the newness and higher levels of excitement to wear off with time... which will vary from person to person. The relationship becomes more of one of comfort and contentment, without as frequent of episodes of the adrenaline rush. What gets some couples into trouble is that they expect it to always be on a high and when things naturally progress they start to wonder if something is wrong because they don't always feel it as often.

Of course, only he knows what he may be feeling, or what he means by his comments. Best way would be to ask him what's on his mind.

[monkey19]

We known each other 3 years going out fer like a year and two mounths

N like I want to talk about it but he texed mee I want to be left alone he doesn't feel good in like I wanaa tex him back in say can we talk about this and person like why he feels this way but I don't want to bother him because he said he wants to be left alone

[DoulaLC]

Best to leave him alone then. Give him some space... it is hard to do when you are wondering what he is thinking, but putting any pressure on him, when he is not ready to talk about it, won't help.

Let him know that you will be there for him when he wants to talk and that you hope he is feels better, then don't text him again. Even if you don't hear from him for a few days. He may be going through a rough patch right now with other things on his mind, he may be rethinking how he feels about the direction your relationship is going (scary thoughts, I know), but you have to give him the time and space to figure out what he wants. In the meantime, do your best to keep yourself occupied with other things... work, school, friends, family, hobbies, etc..

[monkey19]

??

You it is scary because this isn't the first time he does this I'm so like over it tired but I'm so scared too and hurt I just want to be haapy wit him but it seeems like its impoosible to be happy but ill try to be busy and I won't tex him back I already told him

That I'm their fer him and hope he feels beeter ill just wait

N hope fer the best

[talaniman]

Did you know that all your posts are in danger of being deleted because of that darn chat/text crap? And did you know you can communicate better and clearer with others when you use the answer box and not the comment to this post box all the time?

[monkey19]

Oh I didn't know that??