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AxelLover · Jan 14, 2011, 12:01 PM

I'm a thirteen year old girl. My mom and I have had no type of communication with her since the 16th of July 2010-i.e. A text for my birthday, a 'hello' on Thanksgiving and 'Glad you go what I wanted' on Christmas.-my dad and I have not heard from her or have any knowledge of her whereabouts. She is Bi-polar and has taken my 11 year old sister with her. I'm not worried about her. But rather my sister.
I'm getting tired of this and want her out of my life. Can I try to file child abandonment?

summuxia · Jan 14, 2011, 06:23 PM

I'm really sorry you have to be worrying about things like this yourself. This should be adults' worry, so hopefully your dad is looking into this himself. But if he isn't willing to contact Child Protective Services about this, then YES you can even do that by yourself, just Google "child protective services" with the name of your area or city, and you'll probably find a phone number.

Whether your situation is considered "child abandonment" depends on laws of the state/country you're in, but at the least, Child Protective Services can give you the info you need (you can ask them directly if you can file for child abandonment at this point, if you like!). But yeah, do contact them, they could help get your sister back. Their job is to protect children, after all. Just call them up and see what they can do for you.

cdad · Jan 14, 2011, 08:12 PM

They will do nothing as this is not abandonment. This is simply a situation where the family is out of control at this point. Have you tried to speak with your mom when contact was made? Did she say why you can't talk to your sister?

Fr_Chuck · Jan 14, 2011, 08:18 PM

First I am very sorry, and I will try to be more "loving and caring" in the teen area, but normally answer in the legal section.

As a 13 year old child, there is nothing you can do,
Is your dad that you are living with, also the dad of your sister or does she have a different father.

What is the legal status of your mom and dad, married but separate, divorced
Does one of them have legal and physical custody though the court ?
Is your mom suppose to be paying child support.
Those answers can help give advice as to what your dad may do

summuxia · Jan 14, 2011, 08:38 PM

Child abandonment laws vary by country and state, and we don't even know if OP's dad is legal guardian. So we don't know if this is child abandonment.

summuxia · Jan 14, 2011, 08:46 PM

ANYONE can contact CPS if they suspect child abandonment or abuse of any kind. And this may qualify as abandonment,depending. But that is not up for a 13yo to figure out whether it does or doesn't qualify. She can call CPS and CPS will figure it out

cdad · Jan 14, 2011, 08:59 PM

Comment on califdadof3's post

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Child abandonment laws vary by country and state, and we don't even know if OP's dad is legal guardian. So we don't know if this is child abandonment

Sure they vary somewhat but the universal theme is leaving a child unattended and without means.

I don't see that in this situation. Did you see any mention of it by the OP that I didn't see or skip over ?

AxelLover · Jan 14, 2011, 09:45 PM

CPS, hasn't done JACK SHIZ. I have called. My dad has called. His friends HAVE CALLED.
I have reported my mom to many times to count. CPS, has done nothing. AND THEY WON'T DO ANYTHING.
I'm on a bike, with square wheels in the ditch. While my mom and her new boy-toy are on the Maserati, on a one-way street to Las Vegas.
Or in simple terms: I'm trying to clime an iced over brick wall with my bare hands, in -50 deg. Weather, on a dead-end, in the middle of hell.

AxelLover · Jan 14, 2011, 09:50 PM

Married but separate. My mom handed me over to my dad. My mom pays no support what-so-ever. My dad pays support to my sister.
And CPS won't do anything. Their EGO is far to large. I myself have a very low opinion about them.

AxelLover · Jan 14, 2011, 09:52 PM

Child Protective Services have yet to do anything for my problem. I'm sorry, but they haven't. As I said once before. I don't care about my mom. She is Bi-polar and on the wrong med. I fear for my younger sister.

J_9 · Jan 14, 2011, 10:32 PM

Apparently CPS hasn't done anything because they don't feel that you or your sister is being abused or neglected.

AxelLover · Jan 15, 2011, 11:43 AM

... They say that "Your sister and you are fine." When in truth: We aren't fine. My mom is Bi-polar, goes to the wrong doctor and is on the wrong med. She isn't 'fine' either.

J_9 · Jan 15, 2011, 03:30 PM

That may be the case honey, but if there was an investigation and they found no evidence of abuse or neglect, there is nothing more they can do.

AxelLover · Jan 15, 2011, 03:40 PM

That's the thing though: That haven't done anything! They talk to my mom, she convinses then that nothings wrong, she's off the hook=I'm a lying kid. Which I'm not!

J_9 · Jan 15, 2011, 03:42 PM

I don't think you are a lying kid. I just think CPS hasn't found any case of abuse or neglect.

Your sister has clothes on her back and a roof over her head. She has food and no black eyes. In that case, she is considered in a safe environment.

JudyKayTee · Jan 15, 2011, 05:49 PM

Instead of reporting your mother to CPS your father should file for custody of your sister, present proof that she is in danger (emotionally or physically) and be awarded custody. It's faster and easier than the red tape involved with CPS and less proof is needed.

I do notice from your other thread that your parents are divorcing so this will be addressed at that time.

Did your parents agree that you would go with your dad and your sister would go with your mother or were you just dropped off? (I'm confused because of the part about your dog.)