[tititini]

I lost my virginity when I was 19 with the boyfriend I had for 4 years and my mom hates me for this,I am 25 now and my mom keeps ignoring me,she says bad things behind my back to my younger sister and thinks that I am a whore,I am really depressed.she says I am not going to find myself someone to marry and everyone loves me for sex, I am 25 now do I really have to be a virgin nowwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww?? please help me I am in lots of pain.I can't live in a place no one really loves me.

[shaah]

Hi,
Being virgin is a good thing, you can prove to your husband that you have been faithful to him and now it is too late.
Just ignore everything and live for what you did.
Your mother might haves good point if she says that.
I hope I don't get you mad or it is my point of view

[joypulv]

Why are you living with or near your mother at 25? Shake off her horrible attitude and go out on your own. Find people who like you for who you are, without knowing whether you are a virgin. Does losing your virginity make your left ear turn blue? No one has to know until they know you well. There are all degrees of virginity anyway. Some people engage in all sorts of sex without a penis in a vagina and call themselves virgins.

[talaniman]

You are 25, you can make changes to where you live, and don't have to be judged. Oh, but us parents always will judge our children, that's why they move out, to live their own lives.

Because a parent rants, and raves, doesn't mean they don't love you, they just want to steer you in the right direction.

[love2laughalot]

You are a adult, you can make you own choices. Ignore all the mean things your mom says about you
The past is the past,its done and over with, you need to learn to move on from it.
There are many people in this world that have had sex before marriage,that doesn't mean its right but you will be able to find someone who loves you no matter what and maybe eventually your mom will learn to forgive you,maybe you to learn to forgive yourself first though.

[Fr_Chuck]

I doubt my mom said three good words about me in the same sentence ever. Did she love me, yes, did she remind me I did not become an electricial engineer like my cousin, did she remind me of all of the failures in my life every time I tried something new.

That is your mom, so stop seeing mom every day, she can't do it behind your back if you are not living at home. Your 25, move out and start your own life.

You can not change what happened in the past, but you can forget it and move on

[tititini]

Thank you all for your kind answers;
As a matter of fact, in my point of view,being a virgin before marriage is something stupid,as the guy you marry might or has sure had sex time after times,so I do not blame myself for doing what I did!I am so sad because my mother calls me whore and says that every time I am out I am doing it and says really bad things about me!she doesn't have the right!and as you guys said the only way to get rid of all this bull****s is to leave home.

[talaniman]

LOL, for sure I doubt she changes! That's against the Parents Rules of Harassing Their Children.