[atomicsugamama]

Before I say anything else, I can say this affirmatively, I am indeed over this...

I dated a guy I went to high school with. First boyfriend, lost my virginity to him, and he said his to me, "in love", but too young... Anyway, long story short, we dated for about 1 1/2 years. Both of our mothers are bi-polar and his mom was having especially bad episodes and it tore us apart. He was told to date other girls by his mom, he stayed with me behind her back... but behind mine he had taken her advice as well. I won't go into all of the personal detail there.

I moved on... started dating a nice boy. We had been dating for 6 months and then I was at an overnight party that my ex was at. This part I am ashamed of, but it plays into the dream. I slept with him and he begged me to give him another chance. I told him that I shouldn't have slept with him and that I still had feelings for him, but it was time to give that up because it was a sour situation that would only lead down a dark path. I also stated that the guy I was dating was a good guy and he didn't deserve to be done wrong. So that was that. There were a couple other times in high school were he tried to redeem himself, but I wasn't having it.

In the end, I stood my ground, was honest with the guy I was dating and it worked out for the best. I married that guy, (the "rebounder" as some would call it). We have been together for 8 years and married for 4 with two beautiful children.

I still have dreams that I see my ex and he tries to get back with me. I always feel a slight rekindling, but I still tell him that I can't. In real life, I still wonder if he knows what he was missing by ending our relationship from what he did, but I know that isn't relevant. I'm just curious as to why I would have these dreams... I'm not expecting solid answers, just ideas.

[talaniman]

Exes often haunt our dreams years later, but I have no idea what it means. But I think we all go back to events in our life, and revisit old feelings from long ago.

Heck I still date my first girl friend, in my dreams, and that was decades ago.

[sharper11]

Like Talaniman said, it's completely normal to have dreams about the past (exes, family.. etc.. you get it).

You can't control what you dream about. If I remember correctly, the mind needs to sort things out (on a subconscious level). It doesn't mean you have or don't have feelings for someone.

The only bit I'm a little curious about is the "I still wonder if he knows what he was missing". Personally, I would let that go, it is irrelevant. You'll never get the answer.