[heartbrokenguy1]

Hi me and my girlfriend have been going out for 2 and a half months now and its all been great I'm 19 she is 21 but she has got a kid to her ex and a tattoo of his name on her but that doesn't bother me she has been with her ex for 4 years then she moved out from the things he did to her and she was not with him for 3 months then I met her in a club it was like love at first sight but I didn't say anything to her then a couple of weeks later one day she said she loves me when I heard them words come out of her mouth I felt like I was on top of the world the best feeling I have ever felt and we were so happy but I know that her ex will still be in the picture because of the kid then about 4 weeks into the relationship she introduced me to the kid she was gourgeous at this point I thought to myself that I've found the one but I'm worried that she will go back to her ex but I don't get it when she says that he makes her physically sick and she can't stand to look at him because of all the things he did to her I felt really sorry for her when she told me what he did but then one day my girlfriend said to me that she needs time to think about what she really wants but its killing me not speaking to her we spent christmas and new year together I felt like we have got something special but one day she said to me she needs time to think about what she really wants after I heard that it felt like my world come to a end I just can't get her off my mind no matter what I do I love her to bits and I will do anything for her I just hope she feels the same way ut I'm just worried that she will go back to him can anyone give me some advice please thanks

[J_9]

Dude, punctuation is your friend. Please use it.

This relationship was too fast and too furious. You can't fall in love with someone that quickly. It takes YEARS to fall in love.

What you found with her is infatuation and you are most likely a rebound relationship. These kinds of relationships rarely, if ever, work.

Give her the space she asks for. Get yourself busy with friends and hobbies.

[LightCross]

Ur situation is really hard. First this girl just broke up with her ex who she has kid with, ofc she wants her kid to be happy having complete family with the father. Second, the interval of the meeting with you and her break up is too short.3 month is not enough to heal her wounded heart , especially the fact that he is not just a normal ex but a father to her kid which means that she can't just throw away him in a box with 'past' written on it.

I would suggest leave the decision to her, if she wants you to become her and her kid's future then she will come to you, if not then you should let her go.

[talaniman]

Really tough situation guy, as you have fallen pretty hard, pretty fast, and need some time to adjust, and be ready to deal with whatever happens. I think your best bet is to go back to what you were doing before you met her, and give her all the time, and space she needs to unravel her rather messy, confusing life.

For no reason do you intervene, or interfere in this process. Yeah that's hard I get that, but its important that you leave this totally alone at this time, and get busy with your own life as you rebuild.

Its so important that she get her, and the issues with the ex, her baby daddy resolved, and no telling how long, or how much that will take, but she needs all of it.

Sucks now, I know, but for the best, and eventually, you will see, and understand that, so in the meantime, don't do anything stupid, or foolish, just because of intensely hurt feelings. Just stay out of limbo, that's miserable, with friends, family, and activities that you enjoyed before she came along. Treat it as a break up, and hope she gets her act together.