[simplyanna143]

[tickle]

I don't know why you would be asking this. If you are the child's mother then have every right, but you don't give very much information of what your problem is with the MIL. Tell us what the problem is.

Tick

[simplyanna143]

Mil doesn't believe on me that we need to wipe the back of my baby if there its sweating even she is sleeping. She's not agreed with me. She doesn't want me to disturb the baby because she sleeping. Is she have rights to do that?

[tickle]

Quite frankly this is a silly argument. The baby's back doesn't have to wiped because of perspiration but really, you must not become upset about this type of disagreement. You are the mom after all.

Tick

[simplyanna143]

My baby is on her 6months I got a new job. I decided that she will stay with her until we got a nanny. After a week or two when we took the baby from them she was thin and the cough is so bad. We tried to cure my baby using herbal it worked. I refused to return my baby to them but I'm pity with her because she is already old and my daughter is her first grandchild. But she reverse the story that we're not taking care of the baby then she took her to a doctor without our permission.

When I learned that I took the baby right away and told us the medicine need to be followed. I stopped the medicine because there is no label of what kind of medicine it is instead it's a label of the doctors name and how many times to be taken.

The day after I took the baby from her I took baby to a trusted pediatrician. She's the one who made the screening when my baby is 1day old. She gave medicine to me.
When my mil learned that I stopped the medicine and the kind of medicine I'm using for my baby she's saying bad things against me. And she keep on saying that my daughter doesn't have an asthma why I'm giving her an asthma medicine. I keep on repeating too that I'm giving her an ANTI-asthma syrup to prevent the asthma. But she's not listening. She even say it to other people.

After a month we're good not fighting. I pity with her because she's didn't see my baby that long so I decided to brought my baby in their house. Which I didn't realize that it will come to worst.

Sunday, early morning my baby is so healthy. She is sweet and very funny. Until we brought her to their house. Two days, after MIL brought my baby to their doctor to be checked up. Their doctor said that she's not that good. She didn't ask any permission that she will do that. Is she have rights?

My husband and I missed our baby we told them that we missed our baby so much. But what they said we are the one who will visit our baby in our house. We will not take our baby unless the baby is done in her medication. We said we will continue the medicine. But still they said, we will not take the baby unless its 1week. Do they have rights? We are the mother and the father? We supposed the one who will take care of our baby?

After that she keep on threatened us that they will file a case in social welfare against us that we're not taking care of our daughter. And she wants our doctor, social welfare, my parents, them, my husband and I talk about this matter. That we're giving our baby a medicine not suit with her. Is she have rights to do that? This is so frustrating...

Hope someone will enlightened me on what I will do. I keep on researching on this. But I end up mother in law doesn't have any rights to interfere in the family.

[tickle]

She hasn't any rights to take your baby anywhere without permission. She must not be allowed to babysit under any circumstances because it seems to me that this is causing a lot of problems for you and your husband and it could be dangerous for your baby's health.

I re-iterate, you are the mother, you have all the rights to your own child.

Tick

[simplyanna143]

In any court she will not win right? Specially if my husband and I will fight to her just in case.

[joypulv]

Everyone is going to agree with tickle, I'm sure!
But I do have a question about the syrup - why are you giving a 6 month old 'preventative' anything, and what syrup is there that prevents asthma, and is this aside from what your pediatrician prescribed?

I hope I'm not clouding the basic issue of the MIL, who has NO rights.

[simplyanna143]

Its an anti asthma.. the pediatrician said if this will not cure immediately she will turn to have bronchus. It was prescribed by the pedia. The syrup is Salbutamol Anti-asthma.

In some way yes it is. She reversing the story that my pedia is the one not to be trusted. And we are giving some medicines not good for my baby. And the medicines we're giving make her more bad. Which is not true. That's why she wants to file a case against us or threatened us that this issue will brought to the social welfare, she's not on her mind. She even argue with me that the one that I know is pedia is just a student. She's trying to make me idiot like I'm not educated enough to know which is which.

[Jake2008]

I'm confused.

IF you are prescribed medicine by your doctor, for your daughter, it is your responsibility, nobody else's, to ensure that the medicine is given as prescribed. It is not a decision anybody else makes, after the fact. Such as what your mother in law has decided by questioning these decisions by going to another doctor, without your permission.

Why your mother in law is so involved in the medical care of your daughter is a big question mark. Why is this, and why would you allow her to make decisions that you and your husband should be making.

I think there must be more to this story. It is unusual for a mother in law to to have such a heavy hand in how you are managing your baby. Is there a reason?

[simplyanna143]

Saturday, when I spoke to my husband that we will bring the baby to MIL tomorrow which is Sunday. I give chance to her to see her granddaughter since she missed her. I'm going to look for a job anyway on the next day. We still don't have nanny and my husband will go to work too. I can also decided to leave my baby to my mother but I choose her because I pity the she beg in our house. That's why we brought baby to her.

Tuesday night I told to my husband that I missed my baby and I want her to be in our house. Then he said his brother called a while ago and they took my baby to their doctor and said that they will file a case against me to the social welfare because of what I'm giving to her. He called her mother, his brother the one who answered. He said quickly that we will take our baby by tomorrow. His brother said that they need take care of the baby first and finish the medicine in 1week before we can take her. But we can visit our daughter if we want. Which I hate most.

[simplyanna143]

As of now I do nothing. My husband and I we're waiting until the 1week will done until we get our baby. But, they said if we will take the baby in their house I need to be there, including my parents, the social welfare, the doctors.. so we could talk what I'm doing with my child. I'm tired of this.. I'm tired of what she's doing in our family. We are trying to make are family organized but she is there to rule us.

[jenniepepsi]

Well... I suppose if you want to wipe baby's back all the time, that's YOUR decision. As you are mom, and it is your choice.

I DO have to agree with your mother in law, I would never wake a sleeping baby for something so simple and un nessisary. But again, it is YOUR choice. Politely tell her to stop arguing with you and that it is your decision. You don't have to agree with each other. But you really need to respect each other.

[jenniepepsi]

Just to let you know, Salbutamol is just another name for Albuterol, and it is a TREATMENT for asthma. It will not PREVENT it from happening. Did your doctor tell you the baby had asthma?

[justcurious55]

Simply anna, I'm still confused on why you are letting everyone else decide what needs to be done about your baby. You took her back before. You've taken her to the doctors. Unless there's more you're not telling us you're capable of taking care of the baby. What is this medication your mil is giving her? This is still your child. What is it that they are threatening to report you to social services for?

[simplyanna143]

I'm not trying to wake her up just to wipe her back... she is worried that my daughter will be disturb and intend to be awake. I face her on her side first so I could wipe the back properly. That's it

[simplyanna143]

She didn't but she said it will turn to bronchus.

[jenniepepsi]

So it sounds like baby may have developed pnumonia? Did they tell you that? In that case albuterol WOULD be a treatment for that to prevent bronchitus.

Either way, bottom line is, you are mom, and your mom in law is not. And unless you are abusing or neglecting your baby there is NOTHING your mother in law can do about what you choose to do with your child

[simplyanna143]

MIL had the chance to took the baby to their doctor because she's with her. I don't even know what kind of medicine my daughters taking right now.That I'm not taking care of my baby. MIL making stories about me. And make it worst.

[justcurious55]

Please stop using the comment features to answer. Just use the answer box.

But my point is your MIL took the baby to the doctor and had the chance to because you took your baby back there after all of the previous drama. And the baby is still there because, unless there's more you're not telling us, you're allowing her to keep the baby there. You're the mother. You have every right to take the baby back. If your baby is sick, you are ultimately lresponsible for making sure she is getting the proper treatment-not your mother in law. And not your brother in law. So I'm still not clear on why you are letting your MIL care for your baby still when you want her back home.