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    razia_rahaman Posts: 1, Reputation: 1
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    Jan 6, 2011, 04:59 AM
    Hi friends
    I am in love with a christian guy but I am a muslim I am trying to talk to my father but he is totally against it I am really hurt we are in love for past 5 yrs it is impossible to live without each other I don't know how to convience him but on the other hand the parents of the guy are ready to accept us I don't know what to do
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    Jan 6, 2011, 05:21 AM
    Wow X___X actually when it comes to parents things can be tricky especially when it is related to race or religion you have 3 options though :
    1. Doing a 'backstreet relationship' with him without letting your parents know
    2. Let him go
    3. Try to convince your parents
    Option number 3 is the toughest but if u able to overcome it the things u can get would be pretty decent but really it won't be easy.As for now I don't have any proper solution about how to convince your parents because u definitely know your parents character so u should be able to come up with beter solution in convincing them just in case u want to take the option 3.
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    talaniman Posts: 54,325, Reputation: 10855
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    Jan 6, 2011, 08:17 AM

    You have two options, making yourself happy with this fellow, or making your parents happy, and dump him. Choose one, and be happy with your choice even if others are not. You simply can't please everyone all the time.
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    Jan 6, 2011, 08:31 AM

    I agree with TAl---you need to make a choice here. You been having a relationship with this man for 5years!! Your parents are more then likely NOT going to change their minds, ahh peoples personel discriminations rather it be from religion,race, or just plain stubbornish is something you may NEVER overcome!!

    So you see it will come down to what YOU are willing to live with or live without, and only you can make this choice. No one can really help you, because whatever choice you make is one that unfortuantely may cause you to never see the person or persons that you don't choose again in your lifetime!!
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    Jan 6, 2011, 08:36 AM

    What will happen to you if you choose the man over your family? Will you be kicked out of the family and cause great shame to them? Will you be physically hurt in any way?

    Are you living in the US or Canada or England? Where do your parents live?
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    Jan 6, 2011, 12:39 PM

    Tal's right. No one here can tell you what to do about this one. You alone can make the decision to stay with him or leave him.

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