[becca186]

My boyfriend broke up with me a week ago.now this guy from my science class that I really like is asking me to be his girlfriend.I don't know if it id too soon to get another boyfriend.should I?

[adviceishere]

Well I broke up wit a guy after 2 and half years together and quite quickly got in a reltionship with my current partner and I'm having a lot of mixed feeling about him now after a year together, I do love him and I want to be with him but I don't think I would have got with him after getting to know him better and seeing how he handles certain things like alcohol for one, I keep asking myself what if I never met him? But I did fall in love with him and in a way I feel trapped by it, get to know your new " friend" first at least for a couple of months and go out and have fun with him for a bit and see how some of his habits are,

[Cat1864]

Becca, I think it too soon for becoming an 'official' couple, however, hanging out with him and getting to know him better might be an idea. There are no rules that you have to be boyfriend/girlfriend to have fun going to movies, getting to know each other's friends, learning more about what each of you like and, in general, how to communicate.

Rushing from one relationship into another usually causes problems because the person hasn't allowed him/herself to heal and to unpack the baggage. Learning to take that time for yourself is an invaluable life lesson. After all, the most important and long lasting relationship you will ever have is with yourself.

Have fun getting to know yourself and him. If he likes you, he will understand your need for time and a bit of space.

[Devorameira]

Don't move so fast. You don't have to be someone's girlfriend every minute.

Why would you even want to step out of one relationship and go directly to another?