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Ilovemybaby32 · Dec 31, 2010, 07:10 PM

ScottGem · Dec 31, 2010, 07:40 PM

What help do you need? And you apparently didn't think he was too psycho to have sex with!

Ilovemybaby32 · Dec 31, 2010, 08:05 PM

I was trapped in an abusive relationship. When he said he wanted to kill me and my mother and other things along those lines I got out for me and my baby

ScottGem · Dec 31, 2010, 08:09 PM

First please don't use the Comments feature for followups, Use the Answer options instead.

You still haven't said what you need help with.

Ilovemybaby32 · Dec 31, 2010, 08:18 PM

I don't know what makes you think your the boss of this site just cause you no comp. And I need someone who can actually answer the questions I have I already talked to lawyer and cop since I posted this so let's see if your more than just a know it all who posts judgement can you answer these ?'s I wrote

Fr_Chuck · Dec 31, 2010, 08:25 PM

Let me see you sleep with a crazy person, had sex with him and he was OK for good sex but not OK to raise a child with.

I would say good advice is pick better people to have sex with.

I will assume you are not married, so you can't divorce,
And until the cild is born you can not file for custody.
So once the child is born you file for custody and child support.

If you can prove he is a real threat, not just mad and talking trash,

But you can really do nothing unless you can prove a real threat, and nothing for custody till child is born

ScottGem · Dec 31, 2010, 09:18 PM

Originally Posted by Ilovemybaby32

I don't no what makes u think ur the boss of this site just cause u no comp. And I need someone who can actually answer the questions I have I already talked to lawyer and cop since I posted this so let's see if ur more than just a know it all who posts judgement can u answer these ?'s I wrote

First, I am one of the moderators of this site. Second, you need to read the rules of this site. One of them is that we don't allow chat speak. We type in full words and sentences here.Third, you haven't asked any questions. I'm trying to help you but you haven't said what you need help with. This is now the 3rd time I've asked you to tell us what you need help with.

J_9 · Dec 31, 2010, 09:55 PM

Originally Posted by Ilovemybaby32

I need someone who can actually answer the questions I have

Honey, you haven't asked us any questions. You only made a statement. We aren't psychics here, so we don't know what you need help with.

Do you need help finding shelter?
Do you need help regarding the birth certificate?

You need to give us the whole story.

Ilovemybaby32 · Jan 1, 2011, 10:00 AM

I can't find answer box so bear with me. When it asked me for title I accidentally deleted whole question. But at least with you being nice about it I will update but I only want people to answer not judge please. I'm going through enough right now :(

ScottGem · Jan 1, 2011, 10:05 AM

The Answer options are at the bottom of the page. If I follow your last comment, you seem to have not realized that you deleted the actual question, is that correct?

As far as judging you, in order to answer some questions we often need to make judgments. Sorry but that goes with the territory. We will try to help you to the best of our ability once we know what you need help with.

Ilovemybaby32 · Jan 1, 2011, 10:34 AM

Did it show yet because I updated it but I can only see some of it. Im really bad at this

ScottGem · Jan 1, 2011, 10:39 AM

Nothing has shown yet, so I'm not sure what you are doing.

Use the same box where you typed in the last post (#11) and type in your questions.

Ilovemybaby32 · Jan 1, 2011, 11:10 AM

This stinks I just clicked update quesrion then wrote it all out (its insanely long) and clicked update at bottom of box but still won't show for you guys and cuts off for me. So long story short I apoligized for taking anger out on you guys I didn't notice that I had deleted the question and I have been under enermous stress but I am sorry because still that is no excuse.then I went on to tell you that I have been stuck in a mainly emotional and verbual but also slightly physical relationship. I was one of those girls that people can't understand why they don't just leave, but I felt trapped plus he somehow kept making methink he loved me. He made me feel pressured to have sex with him most of the time because I was not giving it to him enough he said . We had gotten into many fights about it, but he somehow always convienced to let him not use a condom because he didn't have one and otherwise I didn't love him. His mother is bipolar and gave him up young to be raised by his grandparents and aunt. His aunt has some kind of muscel issue and has been put on pain killers which she has become addicted to, she has asked to buy medication off me after I had wisdom tooth surgery (which of course I said no to) my ex has shown bipolar tendicies and has told me on more than one occasion that he thinks he is bipolar like his mother. He has recently said stuff like my mother is a ***** and should burn in hell and that he wants to kill me and her. He has also told me many times that I should get an abortion or give it up because he doesn't want the child. He during our relationship tried to make me get rid of a lot of my friends and had me constantly texting him otherwise he would get mad.he would make "jokes" that I had another boyfriend and was cheating on him. And even though I finally convienced him otherwise or so he says he still was requiring me to get a paternity test before he would sign any document (birth certificate) I agreed while we were still together so that he would sign and be a part of the child's life. But he was controlling on every aspect of my life as well as has many rage issues as well as his family does. He drinks underage and has been arrested twice for possession of marijuna ( which unfortunitly are off his record now) but he still goes to parties and does it. He told someone that he wanted to take full custody of the child only because that would make me more upset than anything. And he keeps making scary threats. I am worried for the safety of my child as well as my family because he knows where we live. I don't think I have enough written evidence for a judge to get a restraining order as he said a lot of this to me, but I do have some if he takes me to court. I am wondering if I do not put him as the father on the birth certificate or I say the father is unknown can he have any rights or take me to court for it. Please I'm sorry I'm having trouble figureing it out, as well as I hope he never comes across this but I need answers

Fr_Chuck · Jan 1, 2011, 11:22 AM

You know if you would slow down, write with some comma some periods, some capital letters we may actually understand a little more of what you are trying to say.

Next of course he will make threats about taking the child and about all sorts of things, this is common practice of dead beat dads that want to scare you from trying to get child support.

First at most, he may get partial custody, but odds are he does not want any child to care for. You don't have to name him on the birth certificate, but he can still get or have rights, he will have to merely file in court for visits and ask for a DNA test.

If he is not there to sign the birth certificate at the hospital, most likely you can't add him, but can leave it blank.

You will have to file for custody of the child and also file for child support and ask for the DNA test.

Take charge of your life, and start doing what is right for you, stop talking to him completely,

Ilovemybaby32 · Jan 1, 2011, 11:33 AM

Well as of now I am not talking to him. The last words I said to him where to not talk to me, but now it has moved on to me getting a text or call from him everyday which I am ignoring. I forgto to mention I will not ask him for child support if he will just leave us be, I can support her on my own if need be.

ScottGem · Jan 1, 2011, 11:38 AM

I have to agree with chuck that its hard to follow what you said. What you can do is write what you want to post in your word processor. Proof it and get it organized in a readable fashion, then copy and past into the Answer box.

Originally Posted by Ilovemybaby32

i am wondering if i do not put him as the father on the birth certificate or i say the father is unknown can he have any rights or take me to court for it. please im sorry im having trouble figureing it out, as well as i hope he never comes across this but i need answers

It appears your question boils down the above quote and that I can answer. You can leave him off the birth certificate, but if he wants rights, he can go to court and have a paternity test done and gain rights. The court may not look kindly on the fact that you tried to hide his paternity.

What you need to do is document everything. You need to be able to prove that he represents a threat to the child. I would suggest that you get in touch with oen of the several battered women support groups. They should be able to help assemble what you need and maybe get legal help.

ScottGem · Jan 1, 2011, 11:50 AM

Originally Posted by Ilovemybaby32

well as of now i am not talking to him. the last words i said to him where to not talk to me, but now it has moved on to me getting a text or call from him everyday which i am ignoring. i forgto to mention i will not ask him for child support if he will just leave us be, i can support her on my own if need be.

If you apply for public assistance, they will require that you name the father and they will go after him for support.

Keep copies of the texts, you will be able to get phone records that show he is constantly calling.

Good luck to you and keep us posted.