[jazzalee]

OK so I was madly and sick in love with this guy he was my first love... we were together for 1 yr n 6 months I had to break up with him because he wasn't serious... I wanted to get married and settle down he was 23 I was 18... I later found out that he was already married it devatated me but I was too much in love with him to leave... I eventually left him in 2008 October. It was hard I cried like bell did for edward in twilight.

I met a great guy in jan 2009 n we are now engaged to be married the thing is my ex wants me bk... he is getting a devorce from his wife and he is actibg crazy about me... Im madly in love with my new guy now and wish I had met him first but I still love my ex too

I want my ex to stop calling/texting me but don't know how to tell him, I don't want to hurt his feelings then again the attention is great better than when we were together...


Well I already know who I want to be with... dont know what to do about ex... is it OK to be friends with ex? But he still wants to get in ma pants.. I wouldn like my fiancée to communicating with his ex its you know... weird

[Cat1864]

Please do not use Chat Speak: https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/faq.ph...#faq_faq_rules. Full words and proper punctuation help get your thoughts across better.

Tell your ex to leave you alone and find someone new. Be honest and blunt. Do not play games such as 'we can still be friends' or 'if z wasn't in my life... ' Don't worry about hurting his feelings. This isn't about his feelings. It is about you and what you need.

Have absolutely No Contact with the ex. No email, no phone calls, no text messages, no FaceBook/MySpace/other networking site, etc. If there is no contact, there is less temptation to let him back into your life and less chance you will do something like cheat on your fiancé.

You do not need an ex who is trying to mess up your life. You do need to be honest with your fiancé about the ex in case the ex decides to cause more problems.

Let the past go and stop romanticizing the past. Look at the reality of he cheated on his wife with you and led you on. Fantasy is all well and good, but it sounds like your current reality is much better.

[Jake2008]

It sounds like you already know too much of what is happening in your ex's life. You also know, or should know, that he's not much of a man to pursue a woman who is engaged to be married.

It is time for you to put an end to it once and for all. The ex is after more than 'friendship' and you know it. By continuing to entertain the idea of keeping some sort of relationship going with him, you are already compromising your commitment to your fiancé.

It is really unfair to your fiancé, who, I presume, has no idea that you have feelings for your ex.

If you can't stop yourself from maintaining contact, I would advise you to put off any plans of marrying somebody, until you are fully committed. If you need to be sure about your feelings for either man, the right thing to do would be to postpone any commitment until you are 100% sure.

Simply marrying somebody, won't make the ex disappear.

[jazzalee]

I am 100% sure I want to marry the man I am with right now... I know being friends with my ex could jeopardize my relationship that's why I'm trying to avoid my ex.