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    HarleyQuinn2011 Posts: 4, Reputation: 1
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    Dec 23, 2010, 11:38 PM
    What am I doing wrong?
    Ok, so I am wondering what I am doing wrong when it comes to guys. I am almost the last virgin in my school, of which I am proud, and I like to think of myself as somewhat conservative when it comes to not showing off my body or trying to be, for lack of a better word, a ho. All the guys I talk to seem really great in the beginning. I know they're not, because most guys my age are actually immature and silly most of the time. However, whenever I talk to a guy, it always ends the same way: he ends up going out with someone who will give him what he wants-sex. I am very straightforward, but not in a way that says I would never become romantically or physically involved with them, but I'm still a fun girl. I am usually the "friend" when it comes to boys, and it's quite tiring when I like a guy, because of that. I just can't seem to understand what it is that I am doing wrong that I can't get a guy to be anything more than a friend. Any advice on what I could do to remedy the situation? Please and thank you.


    Harley

    Lol.im a senior in high school and ill be 18 next month.&its not that I don't flirt or anything.its just that even when I do, all the guys just think of me as one of the guys.so they'll know I like them,but think itd be too weird to date a good friend
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    Dec 24, 2010, 07:44 AM

    Believe it or not, you are doing nothing wrong, its just that the glamor girls who put out get the most attention from certain types of guys. I will bet if you look around, there are a lot of shy guys, who you have never considered as a date right under your nose.
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    Dec 24, 2010, 08:23 AM
    Sounds more like you've been meeting the same type of guys over and over again. So you have a very small sample size to compare with. I suggest you meet more guys and then you'll notice the different types. I also suggest that you try to make friends outside of school.
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    Dec 24, 2010, 09:35 AM

    First you are by far not the last, from lying about it to not talking about it, the percentage is higher than you think.

    And if that is what the guys are wanting, you are meeting the wrong guys.
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    Dec 24, 2010, 12:29 PM

    Life happens. And the best you can do is roll with it. Once you graduate then your circle of friends is going to change. For right now your swimming in the same gene pool and there are a lot of clichés and stereo types involved. Once your away from that you can expand yourself to encompass what is truly imprtant to you. The opportunity will come your way (mostly when you least expect it) and you stand a good chance of meeting your dream guy. Right now your making your own mental checklist of what to avoid. Congrats to you for being an individual and not just going with the crowd.
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    Dec 26, 2010, 12:28 AM
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    Yea, I live in a small town, so there's not very much to choose from.lol.and its kind of hard for me to meet people outside of school because I don't really talk to or know anyone from any other counties.but I am trying to meet new people

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    Thanks.and yeah, I can't wait until I graduate so I can meet new people.
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    Dec 30, 2010, 05:54 PM

    Step in the right direction and you have the right attitude. Keep it up!
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    Jan 2, 2011, 10:49 PM
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    Thanks :)

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