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    szpila13 Posts: 1, Reputation: 1
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    Jan 10, 2007, 02:13 PM
    Not happy with boyfriend
    Hi! My name is Sabina and I'm 13. I've been going out with my boyfriend for only 3 weeks and since we have been going out, I feel like I have nothing to live for! I feel like a dog on a leash! Its like I'm afraid of him! :( My friends keep telling me to dump him because since I started going out with him, they have NOT see me happy! Not even once! But I really like him... I don't know what to do! Help me!
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    Jan 10, 2007, 03:15 PM
    Let me see you are not happy with him ? Where is the hard choice on this ?

    Let me see, nothing to live for, afraid of him, friends say dumpt him, not happy. ( so what good is there in dating him.

    If you don't know what to do, read your post over and pretend this was one of your friends.
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    Jan 10, 2007, 10:24 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by szpila13
    Hi!! My name is Sabina and i'm 13.
    Well your to young for a boyfriend but that doesn't mean anything to you I'm sure. But in 10 years you won't even remember this guy.

    Quote Originally Posted by szpila13
    I've been going out with my boyfriend for only 3 weeks and since we have been going out, I feel like I have nothing to live for!!
    That's the first sign that something's wrong. If you have nothing to live for then get back your freedom and enjoy life.

    Quote Originally Posted by szpila13
    I feel like a dog on a leash!!
    So he's controlling. Controlling means he doesn't trust you. If he can't trust you then introduce your boot to his butt and his butt to the curb.

    Quote Originally Posted by szpila13
    Its like i'm afraid of him!!:(
    Why? Are you afraid to hurt his feelings? Are you afraid he's going to hurt you? Either way you owe it to yourself to live and be in a healthy relationship and in healty situations.

    Quote Originally Posted by szpila13
    My friends keep telling me to dump him because since i started going out with him, they have NOT see me happy!! Not even once!!
    Sounds like you've got some friends that care enough to tell you the truth. Maybe you should appreciate what they have to offer.

    Quote Originally Posted by szpila13
    But i really like him... I don't know what to do!! Help me!!
    Maybe he's new to the relationship game himself and he doesn't know how to act. You could tell him what your looking for. You could also break up with him and let him learn that way too. But if your not happy in this relationship, your doing him no favors by stringing him along.
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    Jan 10, 2007, 10:39 PM
    You are not happy with him. Its done. Over. That simple.

    He could be cute, funny, whatever.

    You don't like being in the relationship.

    Don't lose another minute of sleep over it. Drop the drama by dropping him.

    It is that simple.
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    Jan 10, 2007, 10:58 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by szpila13
    Hi!! My name is Sabina and i'm 13. I've been going out with my boyfriend for only 3 weeks and since we have been going out, I feel like I have nothing to live for!! I feel like a dog on a leash!! Its like i'm afraid of him!!:( My friends keep telling me to dump him because since i started going out with him, they have NOT see me happy!! Not even once!! But i really like him... I don't know what to do!! Help me!!
    The fact you feel afraid is a clue to end it. Being in a relationship should make you happy not sad and afraid. How old is he? Feeling like you're on a leach sounds demeaning and untrusting of him. He doesn't own you. If ending it with him scares you most then seek help from a trusted adult. I say that instead of your wonderfully devoted friends because an adult has a more stronger presence. And at times less easily intimidated. You're much too young to be in this type of relationship. By giving him his walking papers you're showing him and any other boy that you think better of you than he does. Selfrespect goes a long way with learning to love smart. In respecting yourself, you'll be showing others how to as well. Heed your friends wisdom. They appear to love and respect you as well.
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    Jan 11, 2007, 04:00 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by szpila13
    Hi!! My name is Sabina and i'm 13. I've been going out with my boyfriend for only 3 weeks and since we have been going out, I feel like I have nothing to live for!! I feel like a dog on a leash!! Its like i'm afraid of him!!:( My friends keep telling me to dump him because since i started going out with him, they have NOT see me happy!! Not even once!! But i really like him... I don't know what to do!! Help me!!
    Sweetie you are 13 years old and there are plenty of guys out there. You are young and are full of hope never ever ever let a guy hold you down! You have dreams and aspirations and he will hold you back and you will resent him and yourself, nobody should ever be afraid of the person they are with that is an unhealthy relationship which could end up as an abusive one. You should find what's out there and what suits you and break up with this loser your with. You are beautiful and young and full of hope never forget that.
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    Jan 13, 2007, 01:19 PM
    Drop this dude and get one who knows how to treat a lady nice and with respect. He has issues.
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    Jan 13, 2007, 01:31 PM
    Sabina, Sabina, Sabina... exactly what is it about feeling like a dog on a leash that you like??

    Yes, you are too young for a boyfriend, don't argue with us old folks, we know better and I'm sure when you're an old married lady with kids you won't want your 13 year old having a boyfriend, much less one like this.
    Now, if you were older and married with a 13 year old, would you introduce her to a guy like this? Would you say, "here you go honey, here's this cute guy who is going to make you very unhappy and make you feel like an unworthy dog, have fun!" I doubt you would do that.

    The last time I checked, this was a free country and we were not bound to be with a boyfriend who didn't make us feel good or treat us right. Have respect for yourself or no one will. Kick this guy to the curb and when you choose your next boyfriend (hopefully in a few years) pick wisely.
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    Jan 13, 2007, 10:29 PM
    If you like him as much as you say you do, then why are you so unhappy? Something's not adding up here. Does he mistreat you? Also, I personally feel that 13 is way too young for a "boyfriend", regardless of what your friends and their teenage romance magazines may tell you. It's hard to give you a really definitive answer without more information but it doesn't sound good to me.
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    Jan 13, 2007, 10:34 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by szpila13
    Hi!! My name is Sabina and i'm 13. I've been going out with my boyfriend for only 3 weeks and since we have been going out, I feel like I have nothing to live for!! I feel like a dog on a leash!! Its like i'm afraid of him!!:( My friends keep telling me to dump him because since i started going out with him, they have NOT see me happy!! Not even once!! But i really like him... I don't know what to do!! Help me!!
    First of all you don't like him maybehis looks or who he is to other people but you don't like him for who he is to you... dump him this can get worse... your friends love you

    13 is too young!!

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