[teargral]

I had been changed password in my laptop 3 weeks ago and my husband didn't know my new password to log in. last night, he used my laptop to play games so I had to log in for him.recently, I been delete the old web history on my page. When he opened the web, he didn't see any website link. When I entered the room, he asked me to see if I asked somebody to clean virus for my laptop. I told him that I didn't and asked him why. He didn't answer me, he just turned off the laptop and said I have to bring my laptop to my parent house and leave it over there. If he sees my labtop home, he will break my laptop. I asked him what wrong? I asked is it because the web link gone? I deleted it by control shift delete. He raised his voice to tell me shut up. He think I took my laptop to my friend and asked my friend to clean the virus for me. Everybody know how to use the functions in the computer to delete the old history. He seemed ignorance and didn't want to listen my explanation. Today I texted him that I know he's the only one work and bring home income.he didn't buy me anything, all he does is buying stuff for his daughter and I don't use his money to buy my stuff. He been breaking the stuff belongs to me, now laptop is the only thing I have. I told him that don't being a jerk breaking my laptop. He can't control me and my stuff. If he do break the stuff, I will use the money to buy another one. Am I saying it right or a little bit rude. I just don't know how to handle with him. He seemed like if he don't pick quarrel with me for two , 3 days, he can't sleep well.

[joypulv]

He suspects you of something, I think. Meeting other men online? Are you home all day while he works? Does he have any reason to not trust you? You really need to figure out a way to communicate more.

[summer_girl]

This relationship sounds like it could become abusive. Do you have someone you could stay with if he damages your property or hurts you? I think this is more than a communication problem.

[belgia]

Sounds like underlying issues going on. Marriage counseling is not a bad thing. Sounds like stress levels could elevate and neither of you need that. Keeps the trust level above board, as well. Also keeps control issues under wraps.

[teargral]

I don't meet or chat with anyone online while I am staying home. He just wants to control over me for everything and he just think I changed password because I don't want him to use my laptop. Its ridiculous.

[teargral]

Yeah my hubby has very hot temper.

[Alty]

It sounds like he's very controlling and he's upset that he can't check up on you, that you deleted the history on your computer and now he has no control.

He needs to learn to control his anger, and be realistic and calm.

Has he ever hit you when he's angry?

[Fr_Chuck]

First please do not use the comment feature to answer, please actually use the "answer" button to answer.

The situation you are in is very dangerous, if he is physcially breaking things, this is abuse and is seroius.

If you do not either get out, or if he does not get help this may well lead to a very dangerous position.

[katie_forder]

I seriously don't know why we are all talking about this like you guys need marriage counseling. I completely agree with Fr_Chuck. This is an abusive relationship and I think you should leave him immediately. I highly doubt he will be willing to go get help.