[qtdaqt]

I've been with my girlfriend for 5 years going on 6. Im 23 and she's 21. The or 2nd year is when things changed and she went to college. I had a feeling this would kill our relationship but we stuck it through. Well, sort of... She cheated on me her freshman year with a bunch of guys. It was 10 from her freshman year to the end of her sophomore year. I had my suspicions but I couldn't imagine hearing her tell me this heartbreaking news! She admitted it to me only later to cheat with 2 more guys. Its been a few years since her last cheating and lets just say that everything I imagined as the worst happened. We talked and she expressed how sorry she was and how ****ed up everything she did was and how she only loved me and seemed to be really sorry. To my knowledge she hasn't cheated and is really trying to make it right. Well its been a while and we've been trying to put her shameful past behind us but I have mixed feelings. I love her but it still drives me crazy that she did those things. I still think about it and its been a couple of years. I have so many images that still replay in my head and make me sick. I don't know if Im doing the right thing. Im trying because I love her and I believe she put her selfish ways behind her and loves me. I don't fall victim to my thoughts as much as I did before but the images and words still haunt me. I see some of the guys she cheated with on Facebook and imagine seeing them in person and killing them because I think I would still have the anger inside knowing another man had my woman. Has anybody out there experienced or is currently experiencing a similar situation? Should I stay or should I go with all this pain I feel like I might live with? Any opinions or suggestions? I'm so confused.

[BrandonGT]

Um... in my opinion, 12 strikes means she's out. Sorry, but she's just not trustworth, and she won't change. Even if she did change... guess who hurt you? Not those guys, her. She made the decsision.

[kctiger]

My ex went to a well known party school for 4 years (university) and that was the hardest thing I'd ever gone through, trying to trust her. I learned to trust her, she graduated and you know how many times she cheated on me? 0... zero... zilch... NONE!

Your girlfriend slept with 10 guys her FRESHMEN year. That has got to be some sort of record, considering she was in a committed relationship. Seriously, you have to exert a serious amount of effort to do that, in a methodical sort of way. Then she kind of underperformed her Sophomore year, only hitting 2 guys. I don't mean to make light of this situation, but you are a guy. I am a guy. There is no way on this earth I could go through that and not be in a constant state of paranoia. Please, for your own sanity, get out of this relationship. Someone who sleeps with 10 guys in a single year, that isn't called selfish, it is called promiscuous and it is an absolute character flaw. Selfish can be fixed, plain outright stupidity can't.

I don't see how you could ever have a normal thought process while dating her. If I was you, I would have been gone a long time ago. That isn't the case obviously. Never too late to make things right and go about your separate ways. Just too much damage done to right this ship.

[answerme_tender]

Its been couple of years and you still can't move past this betrayal. I have to agree that it wasn't just a one time mistake, she really was putting herself out there! I would also have a problem ever feeling like I could trust her completely especially as many times as to her cheating without requard to you at all. Think of the STD's she could have given you due to her selfishness.

Don't you think its time to just move on with your life without having to live in continuous anger,worry,jealousy,most of all HURT! Good luck