Ask Experts Questions for FREE Help !
Ask
    justmehema's Avatar
    justmehema Posts: 1, Reputation: 1
    New Member
    		  
    #1

    Dec 9, 2010, 01:23 PM
    I just feel so lost..
    Hi,
    I'm not really sure where to start.. I just broke up with my boyfriend. It was a long distance relationship. It was going to be our one year anniversary quite soon. We were both very committed to the relationship. I'm not even sure what happened. I guess he couldn't take the distance anymore, and wanted to be single again. Needless to say I am extremely hurt right now. I really did think he was "the one" for me. I'm not really sure how to handle this right now, so that's why I'm here. Within the past 4 months of my life I've already had so many changes.. So right now I feel like I don't have anyone.Because he has always given hope whenever I was about to give up.He is the one who thought me what was true love and life was all about.He asked me to flow with life and move on but I can't possibly do that cause he means a world to me.He still wants me to keep in touch with him and remain friends, but I'm really unsure if I am able to do that. I've never loved anyone as much as I loved him so I doubt I could go back to being "just friends."
    Right now I'm looking for someone on here to please help me. It doesn't necessarily have to be advice, just some comforting words I guess...
    ironhide262's Avatar
    ironhide262 Posts: 277, Reputation: 243
    Full Member
    		  
    #2

    Dec 9, 2010, 02:00 PM
    I totally understand how you feel. I was in a lond distance relationship that broke up as well depite the very intense feelings that I thought we had for one another.

    I also tried to be friends but after a few weeks I came to realize that it was going to be to hard. So, I told her I was not going to implement No Contact. She didn't like it very much but, then again she broke it off. But, I can tell you I feel so much better now. One day I may contact her and see if she wants to be friends and perhaps we will be.

    If you are having problems letting go I suggest you do the same. Read the stickies at the top of the relationship page. There are some helpful tips there and many people on this forum are always willing to help out. I know NC may seem a little exteme at first but, you really need to start thinking about yourself now. Whether you like it or not you are on your own path now. Your ex is right , you need to flow with it( accept the break up)... living in the past is like trying to swim up stream. Best of luck to you!
    chuff's Avatar
    chuff Posts: 3,397, Reputation: 1235
    Ultra Member
    		  
    #3

    Dec 9, 2010, 05:46 PM

    Long distance relationships rarely work out. I've been in a few and the reality is unless there a time you can say you'll be near each other again, it's just kind of a relationship wish, not a reality. I think you did the right thing but now you need to focus on yourself and move forward.
    talaniman's Avatar
    talaniman Posts: 54,325, Reputation: 10855
    Expert
    		  
    #4

    Dec 9, 2010, 09:17 PM

    He was your world, and now he is gone, and you have no choice but to heal, as we all have to after a hard break up ( all break ups suck), and find your own path. You will eventually, if you take the time to recover from your loss through No Contact, and learn to stand alone, and be happy again with just you. You were before you met, and you will be again.
Not your question? Ask your question View similar questions
 

Question Tools Search this Question
Search this Question:

Advanced Search

Add your answer here.


Check out some similar questions!

I feel like I lost everything [ 9 Answers ]

First of all I am new to this site and found it through Google. I really need someone to talk to and don't have anyone to talk to about this. I am a 43 yr. old woman who is unhappily married to a man for 18 years. I have left him 4 times and always have come back to him. He is a bitter and angry...

I feel lost [ 10 Answers ]

I've been with a guy for five years. He has an ex wife and in the past year I found out that he has been sleeping with her as well. We lived together for four of these years until I found this out. I moved out and was heart broken. When I confronted him he said she was lying and he never slept with...

I feel like a lost cause [ 3 Answers ]

I have a job, I work at a coffee shop seattles best. Im not getting paid very well, 9.40 an hour. I bring home around 254.00 dollars a week. My girlfriend had lost her job, and we can't live off my paycheck... And I think our money issue is a big problem with us fighting.. which I'm sure would be...

I didn't feel nothing when I lost my virginity! [ 12 Answers ]

Honestly I find this to be so embarassinq! I lost my virginity like 4 months ago and before that I never did any other sexual activities. Well I was on top and when I put it in me I felt NOTHING! Like nothinqqq at all! I didn't believe it was in! All my friends told me it hurts like a crazy and I...

I feel so lost. [ 4 Answers ]

Hello, I feel so lost. I lost my father who I loved very much and was very close to this January. His health had been fading for a long time (he was 73 yrs old), but he passed away quickly and I didn't even get to say goodbye. I feel so guilty because I had been to the hospital to see him...

View more questions Search