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    Grainne555 Posts: 1, Reputation: 1
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    Dec 3, 2010, 01:26 PM
    Boyfriend wants a break?
    Hi my boyfriend of three years (living together 2) has said he loves me and wants to be with me forever but he is not happy with his life right now and wants a break to work out why he is not happy! I am now living in the spare room while he tries to work out what's wrong with his life but I feel completely at a loss, I thought things were good we were happy and planning our future. Is he just trying to push me away to make it easier to break up or is he getting afraid of commintment and wanting to have see other people?! Im pretty confused and hurt.
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    Dec 3, 2010, 07:33 PM

    Best thing would be to ask him. Let him know what you are wondering about. He may be able to alleviate your fears.

    Has he expressed any frustration in his job? Are there any family stresses? Are there any goals he wishes he could be working towards? He may just really need some space and time to think things through and make some decisions about where his life is headed. Give him the time to sort it out. Easier said than done, but try not to assume that it has anything negative to do with your relationship.
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    Dec 4, 2010, 10:48 AM

    Couples can't fix problems without working on them. Taking a "break" is only a cop-out!

    If he actually wants a "break", then you need to give it to him literally. You need to move out of the house and go no contact.
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    Dec 25, 2010, 04:01 PM
    Well don't jump the gun and decide to see other people, its best if you leave him alone and give him his space to figure things out by himself. This means going back home living how you lived before you moved in with him. There could be a possibility he is just going through normal issues and he just needs to find himself and just better his life. If you break up with him it will only cause more problems and you could have cause a major loss in your life you don't want to be annoying to him while he is just trying to better his life for possible you. Its normal that guys tend to push away the love of there life in order to better there's. You can not be mad at that what you should be mad at is why he is not telling you what's going on.Help him figure things out and stick with him you can do all this by keep talking to him on the phone of meet up and have a cup of coffee from time to time.
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