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    Dec 1, 2010, 09:05 AM
    Terrible Mother in Law WHAT DO I DO!! HELP!!
    I just recently moved in with my fiancé. About 4 months ago, at first I moved in with him and his mother. Then they got evicted because she has no income and lives off my fiancé. Finally I offered to get a hotel out of my own pocket and got one with 2 beds to accommodate her stupid complaining self, and there she goes, OH it's a no smoking, that was really stupid why can't you accommodate us, I guess whoever has the money gets to dictate things, saying allllllll this stuff and my fiancé couldn't even say anything, I mean I know its your mother but Im your wife and the mother of your children how are you going to let someone disrespect me because I wanted to get you somewhere to go so you wouldn't have to stay anywhere else? I had somewhere else to go I could have left and they were planning on staying in their truck but because I love my fiancé I did this for him. Now we have our own place and she lives with us until she gets her 'social security' to get her own place. I don't know what to do. Its only temporary supposedly but she's hanging her ugly mismatched things all over my house, acts like its her place, wherever I put something she moves it and she invites anybody she wants to over even if I have a problem with it. I pay half the rent or more, I should have a say and I'm tired of being in my OWN house where things don't stay where I PUT THEM. Its my house I should have the right to say who comes in an who doesn't, and she wants to keep her grandkids here for the night and longer but the are the dirtiest most messiest kids I have ever seen and we barely have enough food for us how are you going to invite 3 kids over!! Im tired of her acting like its her house AND she has a money issue. Whenever she leaves to spend the night she all of a sudden decides she's not comfortable, makes me get up and pay 20 dollars out of my paycheck to get her stupid self a cab. She's always trying to spend money, on drugs, on cigarettes and asking if we can give her gas money when she contributes nothing at all to myhouse. My fiancé gets offended whenever I say anything about itand so does she. I don't even have bus fare to get to work because all they do is spend it on drugs and cigarettes and sometimes I go hungry and Im pregnant because there's no money because they just can't live without their stupid cigarettes and drugs and ITS MY MONEY. She's always like he'll pay you back or Ill pay you back but HOW?? You don't have money!! I hate living with her so much and I can't talk to them about it because they'll take it as I'm saying the worst things in the world because I hate them. So talking is out of the question please give me some advice!!
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    Dec 1, 2010, 09:59 AM

    Wait, hold on for a minute.

    Is this person your fiancé or your spouse?

    If it your fiancé, walk away now because this is the way it is going to be for the rest of your married life.
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    Dec 1, 2010, 10:40 AM
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    AMEN Don
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    Dec 1, 2010, 06:55 PM

    Tell boyfriend, his mom goes, or they both can go,

    If you don't want the next 30 years to be the same

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