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    Nov 29, 2010, 02:02 PM
    Me and my best friend.
    We know how to make each other laugh no matter how down we are. The problem is one time we almost had sex that made me loose my boyfriend. He got so mad. I tried to fix it but it did not work. Any how now my best friend wants us to give it a try. He has lost many girlfriends because of me. Because they were jealous of our relationship. But it was only that one time that any had actually happened between us. Well the thing is yes every one says we are perfect for each other. But for some reason I can't see myself with him in that way. Is it because I know all of his deeds? Or its because we are too much alike. I can't figure out why I can't see myself with him? Or is it because I haven't let go of my ex as yet.
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    Nov 29, 2010, 02:22 PM

    Funny I had a friendship just like you are describing. We have been married for 2 years now. I say give it a shot.
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    Nov 29, 2010, 02:32 PM
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    But I am still hurting over my ex and if I get into another relationship I am afraid I will take out all my anger on him. I don't want to loose him.
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    Nov 29, 2010, 02:51 PM

    Wait until you get over your ex then. I think when my wife and I finally got together it was like a year after we both got out of relationships.
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    Nov 29, 2010, 03:10 PM

    Keep resisting your friend, and heal from your break up. If he is truly a friend then he will understand, and leave it alone. If he is not, then you need a new friend. But its a big red flag to pay attention too, when your friendship ruins relationships for you both.

    That doesn't sound very healthy to me!
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    Nov 29, 2010, 03:19 PM

    Like spitvenom, I too was best friends with my husband before we started dating. In fact, we would go on dates with other people then when we would get home, he or I would call each other up and laugh and joke as well as compare notes with our dates. Then after a while, we ended up dating. Some times it is good to build a friendship first before dating.

    Just make sure that you two are over any other relationships. Especially you, considering you mentioned that you were still hurting. I would wait a while, then see what happens.

    Good Luck.
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