[randall21]

I WANT TO KNOW IF MY WIFE STILL LOVE ME OR JUST WANT ME FOR MONEY AND USE ME OR WHAT she do not have sex with me .does she get sex from maybe from her ex boyfriend or what

[Jake2008]

I WANT TO KNOW IF MY WIFE STILL LOVE ME OR JUST WANT ME FOR MONEY AND USE ME OR WHAT she do not have sex with me .does she get sex from maybe from her ex boyfriend or what

People do not need sex, to survive. To presume that your wife is maybe getting sex somewhere else because she can't live without it, isn't the same thing as needing water and shelter. Unless you have a reason to suspect that she is having an affair, I would put that as a main reason for your marriage problems, on the back burner for now.

Because you don't know what's going on with your wife, it is easy to come up with reasons for her behaviour, or lack of, by saying she is using you, or she wants your money. But, those are probably not reason enough, if they were true, for her to stay in the first place.

Does she love you? Probably- think positive. So why not start with that assumption.

What are the problems. Do the two of you talk? Do you spend time together? How do you communicate your needs and wants and concerns without being accusatory, or angry, or saying perhaps that she is responsible for everything that is wrong. How does she do the same, to you.

Are there any substance problems in the relationship, or unemployment, illness, etc, that could be causing additional stress.

If you can, please try to elaborate a little more, and give a better picture of what your relationship is like, and what you think may be, the real problems.

[jerrycc]

Never marry a woman who cannot have an orgasm during conventional sex. After marriage sex is just a chore for her since she gets nothing out of it and she will cut you off.