[ssnaeem]

Asalam o alayqum I live in Canada 1year before I came here after my marriage my husband loves me a lot and caring about me but yesterday I saw some pictures of my husband which shows that he did zannah with his 2 girlfriends I cried a lot and I was asking Allah why I saw those pictures now I cannot live with same feeling I had before for my husband although he is caring he stopped his previous relationship with girls but my heart is not accepting this I'm so depressed and cannot work properly even I cannot look in to his eyes what should I do. I'm 5 time salat prayer and want him to pray as well. Please give me suggestion what should I do.what Allah says in this situation.please pray for me.thanks

[mmresd]

What is zannah? And are the pictures you found recent, or before he knew you?

Good Luck,

Javi

[ssnaeem]

Hi zannah means he had sexual relations with girlfriends.and the pictures were taken before our marriage these are old pictures.now my husband is so caring about me.but I have the feeling back in my mind!! About his past relations.. I don't know what should I do?

[talaniman]

Whenever you have those images in your head, make a point of doing something that requires you to focus on something else, until you have trained yourself to push those thoughts aside for better, more important ones.

In this way you can let those feelings go, and not be haunted by the images you saw, the thoughts you have, and the feelings those thoughts, and images stirred up in you. Its not easy, but just keep practicing until its second nature to you.

I think it is much like praying that you now do, but you add the physical chore to it. I think that you have not been exposed to these kinds of images, or have trouble imagining the fellow you have married engaged in them, so maybe forgiveness is in order for his imperfection.

Generally feeling are dealt with over time, and with understanding, so don't be surprised that the understanding does not come for a while, but trust your God that it will.