[endlesslove230]

I have been dating my boyfriend for about 13 months now and we are quite close. Lately, we have had a really good time together and I became to think that he might be my very soul mate (he was so kind, helped me and also had ingenious ideas that astonished me, in short: he was perfect). But the day before yesterday he told me that he missed me so much that he begged me to date him in school so that he could hug me and get over this feeling. He knows that I'm too busy to perfectly mix relationship and school and moreover, he told me by himself that nothing like this would happen in school, that he can't do this in school, that he doesn't want us to look bad in front of our master, that he can control himself in this situations. What happened now? Why didn't he care about my feelings towards this? He knew that I wouldn't like it, but he kept begging me and stupid me agreed because I knew that otherwise I have to date him over the weekend and I can't take the liberty of wasting even one minute. So we met. I told him that I can't do that in school, but he didn't seem to care, he only said: "neither do I" and started hugging and kissing me. We were lucky that nobody saw us because the classes were off and we were alone in the whole high-school, but it was disgusting (he was coming from sport and his mouth was stinking). He was trembling so hard that he scared. Sometimes, after he hugs and kisses me, he makes a sound like he has just had sex and not gave me a simple hug. I thought it was love; he never seemed to care about physical approach at all, but now I feel like I have misunderstood everything. What conclusion should I draw from this and what does physical approach mean to a boy/man (I know that man and women see love and many things different, maybe I am in this case)?

[Rissarooo]

If I was in you place I would probably talk to him about it in a public place like a restaurant, to see if he likes you in a "I wanna send my life with you" type of way, or if he only likes u for the lust. I know what your going through it's happened to me before, but for the most part just talk to him about it and if anymore red flags pop up ditch him and save yourself from getting hurt.

[answerme_tender]

Endless,

I understand you like this young man, but honestly you should never let anyone insistence make you compromise what you feel to be right or wrong. If you are uncomfortable with meeting like this in school, simply stick to your decision, if he gets angry, then you will know that he isn't the right guy for you. A relationship isn't were one gets the upper hand, its were you both feel comfortable. Good luck

[endlesslove230]

Rissarooo I dated him many times in a restaurant, but he never told me something that would prove the "I wanna send my life with you". He is a shy person and talks about his inner feelings only when we get physically closer or when we talk on messenger. He told me just the day before he begged me to do this that he wishes to spend his whole life with me and dreams of the same romantic walks. That's why I got so confused. He is very romantic and really amazing, but his desire disappointed me. Maybe I take it too serious.

[Rissarooo]

He sounds good then, except for his desires. But no one is perfect, maybe you learn to love this flaw of his.