[tiredconfused]

We were together for a year and two months - I broke up with him because of a number of reasons, mainly because I thought we were too young to be so serious (we broke up just before my seventeenth birthday) and now it's been about a year since. We've been getting really close lately, and kiss and basically act how we use to. Except we haven't even spoke of a 'relationship'.
The other night, a girl was pestering him on msn and asking if he'd let her kiss him - and he was asking for me to help him, but I didn't now what to say because I don't know where I stand really. He said 'I do like her, she's nice but she broke up with my friend only the other week. I think I'm just the rebound'.
Eventually we told her he didn't want a relationship because he wanted to focus on his work. I feel jealous and angry. What if he didn't feel like just a rebound? Will he abandon me and whatever 'this' is when someone similar comes along? Or does he want to be with me and doesn't want to ruin things by forcing the 'relationship' issue, seeing as that's why we broke up? I'm just really confused. Help?

[talaniman]

I am not understanding why you would break up with a guy, and keep him around, and do what you were doing before, but with no official titles. It has to be something besides you feel your too young to be serious, but that's what you are anyway serious, at least in your mind. In his mind though, he seems happy as a friend. You are both free to give others a chance, so I really don't understand why you are broken up, in name only.

You are right though, he knows he is free, is looking around, and eventually will have another girl friend. So even though your confused, you better make up your mind, and either do the same as he is doing, looking around, or talk to him about getting back together, which he may not go for.

You can't just sit, and think he will always give you friendly attention, and be loyal to just you, while you are still broken up. That's not very realistic, because having some one as a friend, is different than a relationship.

Is it your parents don't want you in a relationship?? Now that's a different dilemma.

[britt78]

I mean you should tell him how you feel if u think you love him tell him.. if you want to get back with him you should. He mite still have feelings for you. I still have feelings about mey x but we don't talk aanymore so he will never know I still love him.

[echrisinger]

In all honesty, just talk to him about it. You might think my guy friends don't think this way, but they do. No arguing. Dudes make moves when the like someone as a relationship sort of deal, unless they don't really know them. He's spending time with you clearly, and thus clearly wants to get closer to you. Plain and simple, men will be honest if a woman that they like/love asks them to be. That's it. Women are soothing and forgiving, thus the stereotype of go home and cool down with your wife etc...