How do I get over it?
My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 2 years... we're only 3 months away from our 2 year anniversary. We share an apartment together and are generally pretty happy. In the past year and a half, I have never worried about him cheating, and I've trusted him whole heartedly. However, the past couple months, it seems like he's lying more and more. The first lie was about looking at internet porn... he insisted that he wasn't, even though I found it on the computer, and he later confessed. This is the biggest lie though... I dropped him off downtown for a "night with the guys", and I just had a strange feeling... and I knew something wasn't right. I got home and checked our cell phone records, and realized he'd been calling and texting this number a lot, and it was a nubmer I didn't recognize. Well, long story short, it's a girl who he had been friends with over a year ago, but they lost contact. She recently went to his parents house and told his Mom that she wanted to date my boyfriend. So, he was going behind my back and talking to this girl, and tried covering it up by deleting her calls off the call list and deleting all the text messages... and when I confronted him about it, he told me he didn't know who it was, and then he said a friend from work, then he went back to "I dont know", and finally an old friend, and then the truth came out that it was this girl. He told me that he will never talk to her again, and that he is sorry... but that doesn't make me feel much better. How am I supposed to trust him again? And who's to say that if I forgive him now, next time, it won't be something even worse? He didn't cheat... but he lied and tried to deceive me. What do I do? I'm constantly wondering if he's lying about something else, or waiting for the other ball to drop, so to speak... I just don't know what to do to get over this.
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