[Soccerblur10]

I've been dating a boy since August and just over this past weekend we broke up. I dumped him because I saw him drive away with another girl in the passenger seat. He waved at me as he was driving out and pointed to someone in the passenger seat and seem to say, "Taking her to get a sweater." I texted him and he didn't text back.So I got upset. I text once again the next time, "Well you have fun with that girl friend of yours".. . And he texted back later saying, "Wooooow! We didn't do anything! So what's up?" I asked what they did, and he told me simply he took her to her house to get a sweater and then she offered him a free meal at a small fast food place and he was hungry so he approved then went back to the game. I told him how it made me feel and how I don't do that stuff, but he does it to me. He didn't think bad about it because he said she was a friend and nothing more. We texted and texted about it.Finally in fustration I said I'm done.Then he tried for a bit and I said if I'm your girlfriend there is no need to for you to be hanging out, texting other girls.Then I kindly asked him to stop and he just said, I could but what If I'm lying? And I said the "F" word not to him, but like you can do what ever the "F" you want I guess. He instantly shut down and said I scarred him by cussing at him. So he said he needs time and what not. Although the girl he left with is now is comfort. They go to lunch together hang out after school and he gives her rides, but he says he still loves me, but he needs time to heal. He wants to get back together, but he also told me he likes this girl now and I'm not sure if I should hang in there or what?! I honestly love him with all my heart, but I just don't think he feels the same. I just need advice on my sitaution. We've liked each other since our freshman year and finally entering Junior year we started dating. I feel this girl is just a comfort for him cause that's why he considers her and says he's happy when he talks to her and she comfort him, and he said I could comfort him, but he said he wouldn't be able to handle it. I really don't know what to think. I want to say it's over for good, but everyone says I'm prettier than her and she's got nothing on me, but still that doesn't mean anything to me. My biggest fear is he'll fall head over heels for her and I will mean nothing, but he said hopefully in the future will date again. It's so confusing, but I got soccer season coming up and I'm not to worried about it, but some advice would help.

[talaniman]

For all you have been to each other, its hard to believe you would not talk, and forgive each other. But maybe things were not as strong as you thought, or maybe what was strong for a while just changed for you both. Like you said don't worry about it, as he seems to have his comfort, so enjoy yours.

[Wondergirl]

It sounds like you overreacted and owe him an apology. Like Tal said, now the guy has his comfort, so you find one too.

[echrisinger]

Sound kind of jealous. Either you're overreacting, or he treats you like ****, OR, you aren't as close as you think you are. But as things have gone in the past so many times with girls, I would kind of assume you're a bit jealous-worried. He clearly still wants to be together unless he's a player in which case, just no. Being friends with a girl is not being a player, neither is flirting while your in a relationship. Once it gets physical, that's when its more than friends. He was just doing a favor to be nice. Dudes do nice things for girls because it wins them charm points. He's just trying to be nice, and appeal to his inner sense that says he knows what the problem is because he's a man, so he can help. That's how us men think in all honesty, every one of us.