[marie707]

So my fiancé and I had been together 3yrs. When I started to develop feelings for this other man.I at first tried to stay faithful but I was unhappy with my relationship so I began an affair with this man.after a week or so of talking he told me that he was married with kids.for some reason I didn't care.our affair had lasted 4 months and I had broken off my engagement with my fiancé when his wife found out.she somehow got in contact with my ex and they "compared notes." Well at that time my period was late and my ex knew so he told the wife.the wife in then told her husband and he then asked me.I took several pregnancy tests and all were negative.I ended up getting my period not too long after.with all that had happened the man went back to his wife and I went back to my ex.about a month later I went into the hospital with really bad cramps... well it turns out the cramps were me miscarrying my 7wk. Old baby.there was no doubt that it belonged to the married man.I told the married man and he thought I lied to him so now he's pissed off at me and my fiancé has no idea.I don't know how to feel.I am deeply in love with the married man and I think the only reason I'm back with my fiancé is because it feels safe... what should I do?should I break things off with my fiancé for good?

[answerme_tender]

Boy, talking about reaping the rewards of our actions! Why in the world didn't you break it off with your fiancée in the first place. When you are no longer in love with someone enough that you would actually consider chearting on them, then you need to get out of the relationship. You weren't even married to him, so it wasn't like you had to go through a divorce, you just had to leave.
Then you actually cheat with a married man. You know this man isn't going to leave his wife, he never even attempted to after you finally broke it off with your fiancée, or even after getting caught by his wife. I would say your not his first affair!!
You need to take the time not only to heal physically, but emotionally. You need check into some professional counseling. Don't stay with someone because its safe, that's not love, your just back to using him. You need to learn to be okay with being on your own. Learn to like yourself.

[Devorameira]

You definitely should break it off with both of these men. You are a cheater and not capable of devoting your life to anybody right now.

The man you were seeing is married - that means taken and off limits. What in the world were you thinking when you went out with him?

Why would you want to be with a married man? Dating a married man who has already promised to spend his life with someone else says that he can’t be trusted. He's a married man who cheats on his wife, which means he is capable of just about anything. He’s proven he can’t keep promises.

Speaking of being untrustworthy... You are treating your fiancé like second hand garbage! Do him a favor and move on.

Fasten your seat belt because karma will get you. Someday you'll realize that what goes around comes around and will regret your actions.

[vanheart]

I agree. What's the question?

[talaniman]

should I break things off with my fiancé for good?

Yes, definitely, or believe it or not, things will get worse.

[mmresd]

Wow. This is a perfect example of looping. I am sorry that you had a miscarriage. And I don't want to come out as mean, but dam did you mess up in this situation. Girl has fiancée but sleeps with a married man, married man tells wife, wife tells, girl's fiancé, and fiancé talks with girl. This is a mess, and you need to walk away from it! Not only have you risked your own relationship and respect to yourself and others, but you have also risked other people that weren't even part of your relationship as well. First of all, married man still with the wife? Maybe that will go to show you that you shouldn't even be looking at married men anyway, back off him and if you do care about him then give him a chance to be happily married as he once believed he would be able to accomplish. Then, go apologize to a wife that has been put through all of this because of your and the married man's actions. And finally, be a good woman, and end the relationship with your current fiancée instead of leading him on, because OBVIOUSLY, you are not in love with him, so be honest with yourself and to him and end this worthless relationship before anyone gets harmed any more.

Good Luck,

Javi

[pandead]

I will agree with everyone else, it's quite a rollercoaster ride. Don't be unfair to yourself and your fiancé, break it off. Sadly, I agree about the married man as well, he won't break up with his wife for you - he didn't do it in the first place, why would he do it now? - his wife forgave him obviously and he has no interest in leaving his wife and kids for you.

Give yourself some alone time. Take a break from all this. A miscarriage is also considered as a trauma, you lost your baby. Do whatever you need to do to have your grief period. Talk to a professional if you have to, you can discover a lot about yourself.

Empty your heart for a little while, trust me, it feels good. Don't think of anything, anyone but yourself. Focus on your own life. Be the center of your world. It takes effort but it pays at the end.

And when you're ready for a new chapter, find someone available who will appreciate you for who you really are and what you built by yourself. Good luck :)