Forget him, but please do something about your own bad impulsive drunken behavior. Come on he wasn't all that interested anyway, and if he is so willing to use any excuse as leverage then you better pay attention to what he is doing now.
then a couple days later
he said he didn't want to get into a relationship straight away because they alway mess up. we kept meeting up
but he stoped trying . it was me doing all the asking, always me txting first. so I thought he wernt interested no more.. I was honestly confuzed.
This was before the drunk dancing stuff, and while it didn't help, thing were already going down hill. So stop the guilt tripping and deal with what's important, YOU, not HIM. You never had him to begin with, and have lost NOTHING!!