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srdmia · Oct 10, 2010, 07:54 AM

Hi, I'm Sreedas, I'm a keralite, I have a Muslim girl (keralite) whom I love so much, its almost 15months now since we are in a relationship. I loved her so much, and I do care for her so much I would like to marry her, and I'm even ready to ask her parents about this. So many issues have come across between her mom and brother, my love is scared off all this, and even though she doesn't want to end this she is taking it badly. We cried a lot, had almost the worst days, but still we just can't leave each other, I really need help here. We both are light hearted people, and we are both 18years old now.

And I really want her in my life. My parents are against love marriages. My brother who is 5 years elder, had a Hindu Nair( upper Caste) girl, and he presented this relation to my parents, but then dad was so angry, and he said that he would Suicide and stuff, Somebody PLEASE HELP US, even though she tried breaking up today, we ended up in tears, and later on we were sorry to each other. I just love my girl so much!!

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talaniman · Oct 10, 2010, 09:02 AM

Did your brother get married despite the threats, and opposition??

I think you, and your girl wait until you are more independent of your parents, and then do as you want.

srdmia · Oct 10, 2010, 10:58 AM

Nooo... brothr did nt.. but it waz a mess ful crying and stufs lyk tat
Evn though.. she tried to brk up today.. heh.. I cudin lev her.. ten finnaly.. v hugd and cried..

talaniman · Oct 10, 2010, 11:09 AM

I know English may not be your first language, but give us a break with the chat/text please.

As I said before with so much opposition to what you want from your parents, then you need to either see that you are going against what is allowed by your culture and tradition, and deal with it in that fashion, or plan and work with your girl to change it and be independent of that same culture, and its traditions. For now, you cannot.

If culture and tradition are that important, you don't have many options as long as this union is being opposed by both sides of the elders and parents. You fight together, or leave each other alone. Discuss this with her, and see what she says.

If she will not stand with you, then what's the point??