[kuiper]

I'm in my second marriage tomorrow is my 8 years anniversary I'm not happy about it because I don't love him anymoore,I want a divorce? Am I being selfis?

[Cat1864]

To better understand your needs, would you please provide more background information.

How long did your first marriage last? Why did it end?

How long after the ending of your first marriage did you become involved with your current husband? How long did you date before marrying?

Are there any children involved?

Why do think you don't love your husband anymore?

Why are you unhappy other than thinking you don't love him?

Have there been any major problems in the marriage?

What have you tried to keep the feelings strong and the marriage viable? Has he tried helping?

Are you willing to discuss your feelings and work on the issues with your husband possibly even trying marriage counseling (if you haven't already)?

[JoeCanada76]

Can not be that bad, your married for 8 years. Sounds like by just what you post it is for selfish reasons.

You need to give us more details on why you want out and what has got you to this point.

We could speculate, boredom, commitment phoebe, or that you want to move on to another person etc...

It does not sound like there is any abuse involved or you would have stated that right away.

[Jake2008]

Whether it's your first, fifth, or 10th husband, doesn't matter.

What matters is you don't love your current husband, and you want a divorce.

That, to me, is not being selfish, that is being honest.

I say that because your question does not revolve around fixing or improving your marriage, or about the possibility of addressing your concerns in counselling. You don't imply anywhere that you want the marriage to work.

So, unless you provide more information, my advice based on what you have said, is, it's over.

[Fr_Chuck]

Only you know if you are being selfish or not. Why are you not happy,
What is going on in the marriage.

Normally most problems come from poor communications,