[rdecarr]

My question involves criminal law for the state of: New York.
In May of 2010 I plead guilty to Criminal Contempt 2nd, a misdemeanor. Last year I had a domestic incident and had an order of protection against me. My girlfriend plead with me to come back to my house and months later called me in again and I had another assault charge, along with a felony contempt charge. In May I accepted the misdemeanor charge with a fine and 3 years of probation.
Since then, I completed intensive alcohol rehabilitation, and have taken great steps to rebuild my life. I met someone who I have a healthy positive relationship with, but out of shame neither of us told the other we are on probation until recently. She has a year left on hers for an old DWI, and has no terms regarding contact with another on probation. I on the other hand have clear language forbidding me contact with a person on probation.
With 2 and a half years left on this probation and my life finally getting healthy again, I want to follow the rules of my probation, but Im not prepared to give this relationship up. My question is, what would a violation at this point mean for me? It means enough to me that I would do some jail time to not lose this relationship. Anyone with any advice, or insight right now would be greatly appreciated. This is an incredibly hard situation, my recovery and living a healthy life mean everything to me, but so does this relationship.

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Do you really have to give the relationship up though; can't you both have minimal contact with each other until you both finish your probation. There has to be some understanding between the two of you whereby you both can come out on top of the situation to lead a good complete lifestyle.

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[rdecarr]

I got myself into this problem with years of alcoholism, denial, lying, and surrounding myself with unhealthy people. For the sake of my own peace of mind and my recovery, sneaking around can't be an option. I have to take responsibility for the position Ive put myself in. I just wish I could find a way to do it legally. Thank you for your reply, I still have to believe that by doing the right thing, somehow, things will work out right.