[konklej]

So let me start by saying I do love this girl, but I have had my fair share of problems in my relationship.
She was fresh out of a long 5yr. Relationship when we first began dating. She still did business with her ex, so I understood, but I didn't like the situation. One day while I'm on her computer an email pops up as I'm surfing the net. It was from her ex, needless to say I was curious. He had responded to a note where she was talking about how she was trying to rid romantic feelings for him, but they weren't going away. Months have since past and after he hurt her multiple other times by ignoring her she now no longer communicates with him. So I guess that problem has kind of solved itself, but it really took it's toll on me.
Now she has a client (PR & Marketing) who is a big time litigator in town here. Now when she first started working with this guy he would make comments like "I'd know those legs from anywhere." The guy is married and 50, but from what she told me when she "didn't care for the guy", he was known to get these younger girls in the sak with him because of his money. (Shes 28). So now she gets texts and sends texts to this guy at like 630 AM and 1130PM on a Saturday! And it's not like this has just happened once. It's several times a week. Furthermore she makes her own schedule, so I have no clue what she does in the day. I've told her that I thought that it was weird that this dude texts her at these times, and that I wasn't comfortable with it. She claimed that it would stop but it happens everyday or two. When I ask her who's she's texting she just lies to me now and says it's her brother or something. Am I wrong for feel uncomfortable? Am I wrong to be pissed about the situation.

MK

[answerme_tender]

I would say your instincts are talking to you for a reason. Of course they starting talking awhile back when you first found the email for her ex. I don't think she has really fallen for you the way you have for her. You unfortuantely are still the rebound guy. If her ex gave her any attention she would dump you in a minute. But since he didn't, she is still looking and aparently this client knows more then just her legs now. She doesn't want to be alone so keeps you around, until she really finds what she is looking for, is it this client, probably not. He is just fling for her, at least she is just a fling for him!
You need to move on and find a woman who going to appreciate you and love you. Someone you can trust and never have to question her commitment to you.
I wouldn't even give this broad time enough for a piece of mind, I would just leave while she was out and since she likes to text so much, I would send her a text saying BYE. Good luck

[Justwantfair]

I have strictly flirting relationships with the opposite sez, and I have a man I am completely devoted to. I think the assumption that the relationship is more may just be a leap.

That said, I agree that you may ultimately just be a rebound from her five year relationship. You didn't state how long she was broken up before she found you to replace him, but I imagine it wasn't long enough if she still had feelings for her ex into your relationship.

I think the fact that the situation with her client makes you uncomfortable and you have informed her of that, should make her respect your feelings. She is not, which probably means her feelings for you are not that strong.

You can stay, but she will dump you if something comes her way more interesting to her. Or you can save the heartache and take the first exit out.

[talaniman]

Do you live together? If you do how long have you lived together?

How do you know she is lying about who texts her?

Sometimes we get into that suspicious mode without facts, and sometimes we make our partners resort to lying because of the way we react to things, and it's a fact that once we make it hard for our partners to be honest with us, things getting mighty sticky when the faith and trust isn't as strong as it should be.

Let me ask you if you honestly believe your g/f would be cheating on you with a married guy who is so much older than she is? If you do, then why are you even with her if she is capable of such behavior? If not why even get mad at the way she conducts her business? Never act out of fear and jealousy, get the facts so you can make reasonable decisions.

I think it comes down to why you are uncomfortable with her texting this married guy with a reputation. Maybe its rooted into your lack of knowing what their business interacting is about. I would be getting facts, and knowledge bfore reacting out of insecurity and fear.

That's what my questions are about, seeing if you know this female well enough, or long enough, to put all your eggs in her basket, or is fear of competition driving all this concern.

[Jake2008]

Would it make a difference if the 50 year old man texting her, and emailing her, and working with her were 30 instead? Even taking the working part out, if he were 30 and communicating with your girlfriend? I think it would be quite natural that you have all the concerns that you have.

I find it interesting that, also while with you, she was still professing romantic feelings to her ex via email.

Seems there is always a second man in her life, with you being in an unwanted, shared, relationship with her.

She can lie and say, when you know it is the business man, that it is her brother. She brushes you off about your concerns with the calls at the same time, early in the morning and late at night. Could this business man have a wife, thus the off-hour calling. And how disrespectful that he phones without regard to the fact that this is your home. In your face man! - sort of thing. She must have said it was okay to call. She just fluffs you off, offers no explanation, apology, or understanding to you being subject to her planned connections.

She could have shut the phone off, especially on a Saturday.

If it were me, I would be very concerned about her ability to be honest, faithful, committed, and invested in the relationship. People who love each other exclusively, do not do what she is doing.