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    Oct 7, 2010, 06:34 PM
    Should my x-husband be present for the birth of our son?
    My husband and I are going through a divorce. He cheated on me and had a life out side of our marriage that is devastating. He never was intrested in my pregnancy and I always gave me a hard time about going to my o.b appointments, I later found out that had was actually in a relationship with his ex while I had been pregnant.. So needless to say things are not good. He is wanting to be present at our sons birth, but I am really afraid for him to be present but it will make things very difficult on me emotionally.. but its his first child and mine, and I will feel bad if I keep him away... I just want some advice, is it wrong if I keep him away?
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    Oct 7, 2010, 06:48 PM

    There is nothing much he can do but watch, and then go, if that is the way you want it. The doctors and nurses will respect your decision if you make them aware of the situation. It may rest your mind if you let him attend, and then you will have some sort of closure I am sure.

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    Oct 7, 2010, 06:49 PM

    Ask your doctor, being with you in the delivery room is not a right for him. Hopsitals allow dads to be there but it is not a legally binding right. Tell the hposital administrator and your doctor that you do not wish for him to view or be in the room.
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    Oct 7, 2010, 06:52 PM
    I would say he could waite outside... my thought if he don't show you need to get him to just sine over his wrights...
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    Oct 7, 2010, 06:53 PM

    Not knowing either of you personally, it is difficult to say. If it were me and my ex. I would want to sit down and talk about it in a constructive manner. Discuss the boundaries and limitations, and try to at least bury the hatchet, if only for the birth.

    If this is something he wants to be there for, then he should be on his best behavior. Obviously this is a big event for the both of you and your child. If neither of you are able to at least try and put your problems aside now, then things will only be harder on the child later.

    Ultimately, the decision is your's alone. If you feel that he is going to bring stress to the situation, then I would say no. There is no need to bring a child into a stressful situation right at moment zero.
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