[lalafrizz]

My ex-boyfriend have been dating for almost a year now and we were engaged also and one day we broke up and I am completely devastated, we done everything together and now it is like my whole life has changed and I am trying to be strong but I just can't help to break down and he says I can still call him names like"baby" and so on but he still tells me he loves me. So what should I do? Someone please help I am devastated.

[JoeCanada76]

Move on.

His is your ex.

Calling him baby still is just confusing you more.

Sorry but it is done and you need to set your boundaries and makes sure he does not play on and with your mind anymore.

[jheep]

If you're confused, then you have to find out the real score between the two of you. Did you really break-up? Were you both serious and decided that the two of you should go your own separate ways? Ask him.

If you don't want to break-up, then tell him. But if he insists that the two of you are no longer together, then move on. It takes two people to make a relationship work.

When you break-up for sure, there should be no looking back. No ifs, no buts. No should'ves, could'ves, and would'ves. No false hopes of getting back together again. No regrets. That's it.

Accept the fact, learn what you can from the relationship, and go NC.

[talaniman]

The break up isn't a break up until you leave him alone. All that's been done is he gets to keep you in his life, without the title, or commitment. ( maybe friends with benefits?? )

Talaniman Rule-When they ask for a break, give it to them and do your own thing.

Talaniman Rule- When you break up, have the courtesy to revoke their relationship privileges.

Talaniman Rule- When they need space, give it to them, and disappear from their lives. This allows you to heal.

Talaniman Rule- Never allow an ex to make rules for what you do.

Talaniman Rule- While they are dumping you, never say you can't be friends. Agree to whatever they want, then disappear from their life.

Talaniman Rule - Don't miss other opportunities and options because your stuck on someone who is not as stuck on you, that’s just plain crazy.

He wants a break, give it to him, do your thing and disappear from his life and let someone else call him baby.

[vanheart]

Yup, yup & yup.

[wonderlife]

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Good rules! But I just wonder why never say "can't be friend" with someone who dumping you?

I agreed with Jheep. What's the cause of the breakup? Did he tell you why? Did he make his points clear enough for you?