[notsoperfect]

Hey everyone, this may come off a tad harsh, but it's just being reflected through my mood. My boyfriend is everything - he's sweet, caring, loving, and also very emotional. He seems more like the girl in the relationship than the guy - and he willingly admits that. A few hours ago, we were talking how we usually do, and the topic of summer and drinking came up. My boyfriend despises any alcoholic beverage known to man, and he always says that he would rather kiss a snake than see me drink. Woops. This summer my friend and I were "testing out the waters" with vodka - it went very well ;). We were responsible and mature, and we never really thought anything of it. So, today as it came up, and it came out of my mouth and hit his ears, he went so silent that I could only hear his breathing, and he made up some lame excuse that he had to do homework. Yikes! Sorry, but I'm only human. Every teenager needs a little fun once in a while, am I right?

Any adivce? I tried texting him, but no such luck. I'm just getting tired of this - it always happens. You don't know how agrivating it is. Well, for all of those guys out there with high maintence girlfriends - I feel for you!

[Eileen G]

You didn't say how old you are, but I'm guessing you broke the law when you tested the vodka. And vodka is a very strong drink to start with. If you just wanted an idea of how alcohol tasted, it would probably have been possible to have a sip of wine at some point.

Your boyfriend has very strong feelings about alcohol. He may have seen a family member suffering as a result of alcohol, or he may have a friend who gets beaten up by a drunken relative. Whatever, he has his reasons.

He had always thought that you agreed with him, you certainly never put the opposing view, until it slipped out that you had been illegally drinking in secret. I can certainly see why he would not immediately forgive you and say "Oh, it's fine, my views were stupid anyway."

Supposing you had found out that he had knocked over a child while driving illegally and he excused it with "Sorry, but I'm only human, teenagers need to have fun"?

[talaniman]

I think you leave him alone to sulk, think, or whatever. I sort of agree on some level about teen age drinking, it's a dumb experiment, but many do. So understanding his aversion to alcohol, and let him have it. You sure ain't going to change him, and probably should have known better than to tell him, which wouldn't have been cool either.

He was going to find out eventually, and if it wasn't your drinking episode, there would be another disagreement about something else. Maybe you just leave him alone, and take a chance for a break.

Yikes! Sorry, but I'm only human. Every teenager needs a little fun once in a while, am I right?

If you call playing adult games fun, I guess, as long as you can pay the consequences, and just because you were lucky once, and nothing bad happened, that doesn't mean it will always have such fun results. Not judging, just a word to the wise for future reference.

[mmresd]

One personal question: is he a Gemini? Because we really tend to do that! Stubbornness too!

If this always happens and specially when you are trying to communicate with him, then maybe this isn't a guy that you want to be with, if there is no communication this cannot be a healthy relationship. And, if you like to do certain things to have fun, as long as it is not compromising the relationship in any way, then you should be able to do it without him getting so upset. Tell him where you stand, he is not the only one in this relationship who gets to make the decisions. If he doesn't like you drinking then tell him you won't do it in front of him. Otherwise, this will keep happening and not only with this issue but with several other ones!! So, do what you like since it is a free country and if he doesn't support and respect your decision then you don't want to be in a relationship with a person like that! Also, when problems arise always have a plan ready to go so that you have the first stepping stone to solving any sort of problem.

Good Luck,

Javi

[ITstudent2006]

Relationships are a two-way street. You may think this is a tad harsh but here goes.

To me you're being selfish, sel-centered. As a couple you know how each other feels, you know what you like and what you don't like. You knew your b/f hated alcohol and after he got mad at you for drinking you come on here and complain. You knew he didn't like it and you still tested him, now you're upset and you blame him for being over-analytical. Geez :/

Did you ever ask him why he hates alcohol so much. There's probably a story behind it.

Listen to me very carefully, I am not saying that you shouldn't have told him. I believe inhonesty and integrity. (I'm a Marine, I have to :)) but as a couple you sacrifice. You had a choice to drink knowing your boyfriend would get mad. You made a choice and you're experiencing the consequence. I'm not saying he can control what you do or stop you from having fun but some things need to be comprimised. This is defintely one of those things.

Rick

P.S. What kind of Vodka?

Also, I am prepared for reddies. A lot of people won't like this one.