[stewart123]

I've been dating a guy for a few months, and we really like each other. He's very understanding and caring, I never met anyone nicer and more mature than him. But he often leaves to another city to work, or when he's here he started working every single day and we barely get to see each other. First it was all right, I would miss him and be waiting for him. But now, after a few weeks I feel like I'm going to stop loving him if I don't see him. Or did I stop already? When he tells me I love you, most of the time, I don't feel like saying it. But sometimes when he makes me feel comfort I feel like I love him. I think I have very many issues, and he knows him, I told him that getting into relationship with me will be lots of trouble. I think I might have stopped loving him, and I keep crying and crying. When he's being nice I cry. When I imagine good future between us, I cry. Or I think of anything, I cry. Do you think I stopped loving him? Because if that's what it is I think ill cry more, I WANT to love him, he's a great person. Please tell me what's wrong with me and how can I help myself not to cry, and feel the love again, because I think I inside deeply love him. Could it be just some sort of mental illness? What is it?

[Enigma1999]

Hello Stewart,

So only after a few months, you two are in love with each other?

That is going to be a hard question for us to answer. Only YOU can know if you are in love with him. I don't know that.

Do you cry about other things easily, or just things that have to do with him?

It sounds like you are emotional. It sounds as if you consume him way too much. Perhaps you take that emotional energy and channel it towards something else. Perhaps, jogging, walking, a hobby, something that will help you occupy your time.

It does sound as if you really care for him, however, it sounds as if you are becoming clingy, therefore, doing other activities and hanging out with friends and family will help out.

Does that make sense?

[joypulv]

I think you cry because you are hurt that he spends very little time with you and may even have someone else in another city, or he just is a workaholic, doesn't matter which, really, if you feel left out. You are crying yourself into a genuine depression and might do well in a group therapy, more time with plain old friends, and hobbies and exercise, as suggested. Hurt should be expressed to the other person, and if not resolved, then it should lead to taking care of your own feelings by being a bit angry and telling yourself and him that it isn't worth it (unless you too can have a very busy life outside of him). You continue to be a bit masochistic. Hey, who hasn't turned into a basket case over someone?

[stewart123]

I'm sure he doesn't have anyone, but I do get jealous to everything and I'm very paranoid. He knows that I cry and he tries to comfort me, through phone, skype, text or whatever, but it doesn't make me cry less, he's so nice and it makes me sad that he's so understanding and I keep feeling worthless next to him, because I'm so immature and have so many issues. So far he's saying hell stick with me through everything but I'm scared one day hell say ***** it.
And yes, we haven't been going out for too long but were in love, I don't know why that's uprising. But I know him for longer than a year now, and remembering the past, I always liked him subconsciously and he tells me he always was interested in me too, but because of some circumstances, we couldn't be together.
Now, I think it is some sort of depression, my unstoppable crying is unhealthy and I will try my best focus on all my old hobbies...

[Enigma1999]

Hello again,

You say that you have so many issues. What issues do you have.

I am starting to think all of this crying isn't over him.

[stewart123]

I mentioned it in my very first post about many issues. I don't know exactly what they are, but I'm very sensitive to many jokes about me. Sometimes I'm OK with them, but sometimes something triggers me and I start acting cold suddenly. I feel lost, because I don't know what I want to do with my life. I have few ideas but I can't make final decisions. It really bugs me, and I feel like I should have achieved far more for my age, though I'm very young. I'm very jealous, and paranoid, maybe because of my past relationship. I think I don't love myself enough, to let myself be happy in a relationship, or stop caring what people tell me to do. Most people that hurt me is the closest ones, they don't really abuse me but I'm very touchy to their words. Above me missing my boyfriend, I worry about my family, because they have their problems too. Sometimes I hate myself. I don't let a lot of people close to me, I'm afraid to get hurt.