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stupidone28 · Sep 27, 2010, 02:01 PM

I had sex about a month ago (in a bath tub) with my 19 year old boyfriend (without a condom). I will be 16 in a week. :/
Lately I've been feeling sick, I've needed to go to the bathroom more, and I have frequent headaches and cramps. I'm not completely sure if I have missed my period yet because it's always different. Am I just paranoid? Or should I be concerned?

Wondergirl · Sep 27, 2010, 02:07 PM

Yes, you could be pregnant. I'll alert some medical experts to answer you further.

Fr_Chuck · Sep 27, 2010, 02:10 PM

Yes, bathtub sex is still sex. It is waiting time till you can take a test to be sure.

stupidone28 · Sep 27, 2010, 02:14 PM

Thanks for your answer! (:

stupidone28 · Sep 27, 2010, 02:40 PM

I can use all the help I can get!

stupidone28 · Sep 27, 2010, 02:52 PM

Lately I've been feeling sick, I've needed to go to the bathroom more, and I have frequent headaches and cramps. I'm not completely sure if I have missed my period yet because it's always different. Am I just paranoid? Or should I be concerned? My boyfriend and I are engaged and have been together for a little over 2 years. He's completely committed so there's no worries there.
BUT I'll be 16 in a week...
And he's 19.

Wondergirl · Sep 27, 2010, 02:54 PM

You're 15. You got engaged when you were 13? How do your parents feel regarding the sex and the engagement (and maybe becoming grandparents in 8 months)?

Do you and your fiancé have good jobs and insurance, a place to live, money saved up?

I PMed two experts who answer pregnancy questions. Both will see my PM when they sign on to the site. You will get good information from them.

Wondergirl · Sep 27, 2010, 02:58 PM

You say he didn't ejaculate inside you. Did he use a condom? Or did he just "pull out" before ejaculation?

I'm trying to get as much info as possible, so the medical people will have the complete story when they sign on and see your question.

stupidone28 · Sep 27, 2010, 03:03 PM

He "pulled out" :/

Wondergirl · Sep 27, 2010, 03:07 PM

"Pulling out" is NOT birth control. It's about as effective as holding your breath. Please see a doctor or visit health clinic to get at least one form of real birth control -- and too many women will still get pregnant, even using more than one form.

DoulaLC · Sep 27, 2010, 03:09 PM

Originally Posted by stupidone28

Lately I've been feeling sick, I've needed to go to the bathroom more, and I have frequent headaches and cramps. I'm not completely sure if I have missed my period yet because it's always different. Am I just paranoid? Or should I be concerned? My boyfriend and I are engaged and have been together for a little over 2 years. He's completely committed so there's no worries there.
BUT i'll be 16 in a week....
and he's 19.

Even if he didn't ejaculate inside, pregnancy is a possibility. Since you aren't sure about your period, try a test since you have been experiencing possible symptoms. Be sure to read the directions and follow them carefully. Three points that are particularly helpful: use first morning urine, make sure you have enough urine on the stick, and read the results in the time specified on the test.

If negative... wait another week or two and test again if you still have symptoms but no period. You could always go to a pregnancy center, health department or your doctor but they will do a similar urine test anyway. Your period may just be off, although again you aren't certain about the timing, and you may be fighting an illness.

If you are pregnant, you'll have some decisions to make, one being getting a midwife or OB and starting prenatal care. Also you would want to start on a prenatal vitamin. If you aren't pregnant, which is more likely if things happened as you described, be very careful in the future to always, always use protection. There is no 100% safe time to avoid pregnancy. If you use a condom, make certain it is put on BEFORE there is any entry at all... as this is a common mistake people make, thinking it is OK to engage in sex for awhile and then put the condom on right before ejaculation.

p.s... just saw the part about parents not knowing... depending on where you live, because of your ages, he could be facing some serious legal problems... engaged or not. You need to be open and straight up with your parents. If you feel you are mature enough to be making these decisions, be mature enough to be honest with your family. Good luck!

Wondergirl · Sep 27, 2010, 03:11 PM

Thanks for helping us out with your answers.

Do you go to school, or did you graduate early? If you're in school, what will happen when Baby arrives (if there is one)?

Did your fiancé graduate from high school? What kind of job does he have?

Please answer in the blank answer box at the bottom of the screen. Otherwise, your very helpful answers will "get lost" inside my question box.

stupidone28 · Sep 27, 2010, 03:12 PM

I would never EVER be put on birth control. Too risky

Wondergirl · Sep 27, 2010, 03:14 PM

stupidone28 : I would never EVER be put on birth control. Too risky

I don't understand. Too risky for what?

stupidone28 · Sep 27, 2010, 03:17 PM

I'm still in high school :/ & if there IS a baby, I'll try to finish high school (at least) or if it comes down to it, I could get my GED as well.
And he got his GED and he works in construction.

stupidone28 · Sep 27, 2010, 03:19 PM

To risky meaning that the longer you're on it, your chances increase to not be able to have children. Or so my mother told me. And I'd never want that to happen :(

Wondergirl · Sep 27, 2010, 03:24 PM

Originally Posted by stupidone28

to risky meaning that the longer you're on it, your chances increase to not be able to have children

I'm living proof that's not true. I have two wonderful, healthy children and took because pills before, during, and after. (My husband refused to have any more kids, so that's why I stopped having kids.) In fact, none of my fertile friends had any problems with births or conditions of children because they took because pills. And there are other kinds of birth control besides pills. And my experience was in the Dark Ages of birth control. Nowadays, birth control is sooooooooo improved and effective!

stupidone28 · Sep 27, 2010, 03:26 PM

Well maybe... but I'm still not too sure.
I still need to take a test. Maybe it's all in my head. I've been SUPER stressed lately. So could that be it?

crys27 · Sep 27, 2010, 03:30 PM

I couldn't even finish reading all the things you are saying girlfriend! YOU ARE A BABY! You know NOTHING yet. Do you think it is fair to bring a child into this world and being raised off a K-Mart or Taco Bell salary? Wearing clothing from the goodwill to school? Do not take it wrong, but think about how aawful this poor baby's life will be? Do you really think you are going to be with the same person from 15 to 50? Not likely. You need to grow up. Birth Control isn't what is risky hunie, it's having sex unprotected at 15! Newsflash... pulling out doesn't work. And that is how I ended up pregnant at 17. Got married at 19, mortgage, nice cars, jobs, insurance... DIVORCED!! TOO YOUNG! Good luck!

stupidone28 · Sep 27, 2010, 03:30 PM

Lately I've been feeling sick, I've needed to go to the bathroom more, and I have frequent headaches and cramps. I'm not completely sure if I have missed my period yet because it's always different. Am I just paranoid? Or should I be concerned? My boyfriend and I are engaged and have been together for a little over 2 years. He's completely committed so there's no worries there.
BUT I'll be 16 in a week...
And he's 19.