[JustMe12]

Im afraid if I don't see him enough he will say he's single and date other girls D: HELP ME! /:

[Enigma1999]

How old are you both?

[JustMe12]

I'm 13 he's 15

[DoulaLC]

Im afraid if I dont see him enough he will say hes single and date other girls D: HELP ME!! /:

If you can't trust him enough to believe he would be honest with you then you will have to decide why you want to have him as a boyfriend.

Is he your first real boyfriend? Be very careful not to feel you have to act a certain way to keep him. He either likes you, and only you, or he doesn't. If you aren't sure about how he feels, ask him.

If you still don't believe he is being honest and are still worried he will say he is single and date others, either he is not worth having as a boyfriend, you aren't ready to have a steady boyfriend, or both.

It might be best for both of you to be free to date different people if you want to. That is how you get to find out what you like and don't like in someone. You can still see each other, but it doesn't have to be exclusive.

[martinizing2]

Have a greenie on me.

[martinizing2]

This is good advice from a wise lady. Consider it carefully.

[martinizing2]

As Doula said,
At your age you should be experiencing a many different people.
Learn about how to build a relationship out of honesty and trust for each other.
Those are the ones that will last and make you happy.

If you can't trust him to be away from you,
You don't need him.

Keep looking.

[Jake2008]

JustMe12, are you 12, or 13.

Regardless, you are too young to understand dating, let alone worry about having, and keeping a boyfriend.

Knowing what love is, or a relationship, also goes along with maturity, and you are not mature enough to understand that either, at your age.

You worry that if you don't see him enough, he will say he is single, and start dating other girls.

What is 'dating' to a 13 year old. Do your parents know you have a boyfriend, and do they approve? What are you allowed to do, or not do on a date. Have they even met him?

You could find yourself in a position where you become so determined to keep him, that you will enter into territory that you shouldn't. i.e. sex. With him going on 16, and if you are only 12 (just a guess from your nic), that presents a serious legal problem as well. If you are 13, and he turns 16, you are still a minor, and if your parents are unaware of you dating this kid, his age alone would/could cause problems.

Work on friendships first, and be very, very careful of any demands, or expectations of your boyfriend. A 15 year old male, who sees you as willing to do almost anything to keep him, can and will take advantage of that.

[Cat1864]

Justme, what is 'dating' to you? At 13, it should be going out with a group of friends.

Is he pressuring you for more of your time? Do feel like you can't do anything other than be there for him and what he wants to do?

IF he is the one wanting more attention and making you think he will find someone new if you aren't with him, then he is being controlling. Controlling behavior is not good in any relationship.

IF you are the one who is scared that he will find another girl, then you are being clingy and insecure. Being clingy is another form of control. You are trying to make him responsible for your feeling secure in the relationship by saying that if he isn't with you then you don't trust him.

You both need to have hobbies and things you like doing outside of the relationship. It makes you stronger, happier people and that makes the relationship stronger.

[JustMe12]

I'm 13 and I wasn't scared that he would find another girl but I was when his sister told me he did that to a lot of other girls /: