[thinkingofher]

Okay I can't stop thinking about this girl who I've known for about a year or more. I started having feelings for her last month and we've been talking a lot online but I haven't gotten a chance to actually have a nice chat with her in reality because I barely see her in school and then I barely have time to talk to her after cross country practice (we both do cross country and she does different stuff at practice) since the girls and guys are separate. She's a really cool person but I don't know how to approach her and what I should do because I'm afraid of her rejecting me and then all this family drama that's going to occur sometime after IF we do get together... I feel like I've been suffering from thinking about her what would happen after that... Any advices?

[talaniman]

If your to busy, or AFRAID you might be rejected, then you will never know what could happen.

I highly suggest you get OVER your fear of REJECTION, and WHAT COULD HAPPEN. Too much fear of anything stops you from taking action, and taking a risk.

You never know what will happen if you don't try. You can never live your life being afraid, even if you do get rejected or hurt later.

Let you in on a secret. We all get hurt, and rejected a few times in our life. NO BIG DEAL. So find some courage, why don't you.

[Homegirl 50]

You are thinking too much. Just go up and talk to her. She is human just like you. Don't worry about the what ifs. Live in the now.

[thinkingofher]

Yeah I have been overthinking this whole thing. Thanks Homegirl and talaniman.

[docjay]

You should ask her if she rejects you, at least you won't go insane, if you don't ask her then you do go insane. And be hold you are screwed at a mental hospital.

[Homegirl 50]

Good luck kid. Just go up to her say hello. That is the firt step.

[thinkingofher]

Lmfao hahaha possibly docjay. Thanks a bunch all of you. But just wondering... Should I try to hang out with her and then ask her or should I just go for it?

[talaniman]

What's comfortable for you? How well do you know her? Do you interact offline at all? What's the online chatting about?

If you barely see her in school, how do you plan on doing things with her? Me, I would see what the face to face thing is about in person, and see how that goes. With that online thing it seems you never can gauge a persons personal traits and see if they are worth it or not, or even if they are into you or not.

Just make some time to be where she is, and see if you can engage her on a personal level.

[thinkingofher]

I mean we know each other but I don't know her as much as to go over her house and just chill with her. I was thinking that I should just pull her aside after practice sometime this week and tell her how I feel for her. Is that a bad idea? If it is I'll try to hang out with her and try to talk to her on a personal level. What would you say talking on a personal level is? Just wondering what other people think.

[talaniman]

I was trying to get a sense of how well you know each other, To see where you are on a friendship/acquaintance level, but asking her to join you for something personal as a soda or socializing event will at least tell you if she may be interested.

[thinkingofher]

All right. I'll try that. I'll come back here if I have any other questions. Thanks a whole bunch.